Hi snakesarecoolB)! It's definitely possible that you aren't preparing yourself, body and mind, for masturbating and that's why you're having trouble maintaining your arousal. Unfortunately I can't give you a one-size-fits-all response, as everybody has different things that work for them. What I CA...

Thank you for your quick reply as well! As you plan to try partnered sex, is there any information you and/or your boyfriend would like or any topics you're curious about? Feel free to ask us questions; we're here to help, whether it's reassurance or education. Back to your original topic however; w...

Hi Lime_time, welcome to Scarleteen! I'm sorry to hear that you're having difficulty reaching orgasm while masturbating! You may be right that it can be attributed to your anti-anxiety medication and I'm sure you know you're not alone in that; it's a common side-effect! If you and your boyfriend are...

Did you get a chance to check out that article that Willa linked? Unfortunately, stories like yours aren't uncommon at all. The good part of that, however, is that there of a lot of resources out there about religious trauma and its relation to sexuality. BDSM, for example, is often a kink that is e...

Hey Lyle! That definitely sounds like a dilemma! At the end of the day, what you choose to do is up to you, but let's see if I can at least help you with your uncertainty! Regarding F, the only person who can say she has a crush on you is her; however, it does sound like she has some hesitation to m...

As Ellie mentioned before, it's common for people to have fantasies like this that may cause them distress after the fact. You may be correct that the aspect of your fantasies that is interesting to you and your body are the same that make them feel 'wrong'. With fantasies like these, the fact that ...

Hey eziver12! Can I ask what leads you to masturbate in the first place? Are you doing it because you feel the desire to or some kind of sexual arousal? Or is it more that you feel like you "should" masturbate... or something else entirely? We, unfortunately, can't answer the question of w...

Hey L@dybug! Welcome to Scarleteen! I am curious to know what you personally mean by edging, as that changes the response a little bit. Now that you spend twice as long trying to orgasm, are you still doing the same behaviors (ie. nipple play & dry humping) that you were using before? It's possi...

Hello juliapf! It seems like you have a lot of anxiety surrounding this subject! Discharge coloration can definitely be concerning; let's try and see if we can break that down for you! Brown discharge isn't uncommon and can be a slower menstrual flow or a pre-period discharge color. Additionally, pi...

Hey meowcrumbs! I'm sure you're frustrated. Please know that you're not alone; plenty of people struggle to reach orgasm and there's no magic answer as to how to 'get there'. Over Scarleteen's years, we've touched on this subject a few times and you may find this article in particular helpful in und...

Life can be very stressful and with everything going on right now in the world, self-care is more important than ever! So, what's something you've done recently to take care of yourself? It can be anything that makes you feel good, from taking a bubble bath to reading a good book! If you don't have ...