Hi there kiiiimibela, I'm glad to hear that you've been able to set that boundary and (hopefully) have it respected when you felt you weren't ready to try that. Did you tell your boyfriend how you felt? How did he respond to it? You're not the only one who feels a bit nervous or shy about receiving ...

Hi there Pan, The simple answer to most of your questions is that penis size is a lot like the size of any of our other body parts. Sizes vary between different people, within different times of their life. The relative size of someone's penis has very little to do with how able they are to make the...

Hi there yaoi, There is definitely not enough amount of research or academic resources about binary transgender folks compared to cisgender ones, not to mention nonbinary or genderqueer people. Off the top of my head, I might direct you to WPATH, or the World Professional Association for Transgender...

Olive, Thank you so much for this incredibly sweet message. I'm so glad to hear that Scarleteen was helpful for you when you were younger. I too used Scarleteen, when I was young and sexually confused preteen, and while I was never really brave enough to be vulnerable and post on the boards, it prov...

Hi unicyu, You're right - if you tell your boyfriend that you'd like him to touch your butt, he grabs it, and it's not exactly what you wanted, he can't be expected to know that if you haven't communicated it. We talk about this a lot in Be A Blabbermouth: The Whys, Whats, and Hows of Talking About ...

If you get periods regularly, how do they make you feel about yourself? Does it contribute to feelings of gender dysphoria ( discomfort, anxiety, or frustration felt by a transgender or gender non-conforming person when they feel that the way that they look or are perceived doesn't match up with how...

Hi there lovingluna, and welcome to Scarleteen. We can't really say for sure why you're experiencing this bleeding, because we're not doctors and this is the internet. Because you did have a period recently, are not taking birth control, and because you're experiencing a really heavy flow, I would r...

Hi john, Thank you for being respectful of our boundaries - we don't enjoy telling people that we can't engage with them on certain posts, but it really is more helpful to try and address that anxiety directly rather than feeding into them. So you said that you feel yourself enjoying sex less becaus...

Hi there Siahues, and welcome to Scarleteen! That's a pretty tough situation - I'm sorry to hear that you don't have a whole lot of privacy. While it may be something that goes against certain religious beliefs, masturbation is something that lots and lots of people engage in throughout their lives,...

Hi there w_s02, We can't really say for sure why people are attracted to certain sexual things. It's probably a combination of our upbringing, our social environments, the people that we meet, and what we're exposed to in real life and online. Like you said, you were exposed to certain types of sexu...

Hi john, We are absolutely certain about the information that we put out in our articles, as it comes a multitude of sources including a) national and international organizations like WHO, the CDC, and Planned Parenthood, b) advice and consultation by a whole bunch of licensed physicians and sexual ...

Hi john,

I've created this thread so that you'd have another space to talk more about what might be causing any fears and anxiety that you have about pregnancy, and where you think they might be coming from.

Hi there dsd23969, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way. Have you ever tried talking with her about how she is feeling? You mentioned that she seems "scared to touch you" - have you ever stopped and asked how she is feeling? Likewise, have you ever asked for...

Hi there frosty, and welcome to Scarleteen. We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you a...

Hi there Nak1,

It looks like we've already answered this question in our text service, so I'm going to lock this thread.

Hi unicyu,

Can you tell us more? What did you talk about? How did he respond? Has his behavior changed at all since you had that conversation?

Hi there Anna5511, and welcome to Scarleteen! We have a couple of articles that give you all these answers and more - you might find it helpful to read through Can I Get Pregnant, Or Get Or Pass On an STI From That? , Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide , and Who's Afraid Of Sperm Cells? . By the...

Hi there unicyu, and welcome to Scarleteen! First of all, I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend treated you like that. I think it's absolutely understandable that how he acted made you feel weird - no one wants likes being kissed when they're not in the mood for a kiss, much less if it feels like th...

Hi there bri21, and welcome to Scarleteen! To answer your question, there's always a small chance that you might still get pregnant after taking Plan B, because it isn't a guarantee, but if it's taken within 24 hours, it can be up to 98% effective. The exact science isn't entirely clear - while it's...

Hi ConfusedOne, From what I understand, the key to avoiding this issue seems to be cleaning it after every use, and storing it in a way that allows it to dry thoroughly (so no, a shower is definitely not the right place for it). If you search "cleaning a fleshlight", there are quite a few ...

Hi wintergreen, This is an interesting dilemma to be in - I'm not an actor myself, but am involved in the theater community and am constantly baffled by how much casting and selection focuses on physical appearance through the lens of pretty strict gender stereotypes. I know more than a few folks wh...

Hi there chickenkatsu, There are a few reasons why you might be experiencing breakthrough bleeding - things like stress, changes in diet or exercise, or slight differences in when you take your pill can affect the regularity of your period. If you're not experiencing any other concerning symptoms (c...

Hi there Laur1234, Anytime you stop, switch, or start hormonal contraceptives you might experience general hormonal-change-symptoms, like spotting, cramping, or breast tenderness, or maybe even headaches and nausea. If you're feeling concerned about it, you can always check in with your pharmacist o...

Hi there TheConfusedOne, While I hate to be the bearer of bad news, I think your husband has the right instinct in this situation. Because of the way that fleshlights are designed, there really is no way to get in there and ensure that every single bit of whatever's growing in there is eliminated. A...

Hi there redredred, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm glad that you're taking the time to think about how you feel about your sexuality. The truth is that each of us has a different understanding of our own identity, and that can change over time. If you feel like you connect with the label of asexuali...