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by Heather
Wed Nov 08, 2023 9:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Urethra
Replies: 1
Views: 2035

Re: Urethra

Hi there, Bromine, welcome to the boards. :) It's actually really hard to even see the urethral opening, it's so small. (The urethra is a tube inside the body: we can't see it from the outside at all.) I do think that describing it as usually flat is accurate. There's an image here made for medical ...
by Heather
Wed Nov 08, 2023 9:28 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Just had my first time, need to debrief
Replies: 1
Views: 5535

Re: Just had my first time, need to debrief

Hey there, predatorywasp. Welcome to the boards. I'm so glad that you had a first intercourse experience you feel good about. So, this thing with first intercourse where you find that, despite goodness knows how many cultural tropes to the contrary, you feel exactly the same? Normal. Typical. Totall...
by Heather
Tue Nov 07, 2023 1:44 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Can't find / feel clitoris
Replies: 5
Views: 24920

Re: Can't find / feel clitoris

Glad to be of help. You know where to find us if you want to pick this up again or want help with something else!
by Heather
Tue Nov 07, 2023 12:43 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Can't find / feel clitoris
Replies: 5
Views: 24920

Re: Can't find / feel clitoris

Aha! It does indeed sound like you found your clitoral glans. Thanks for answering those questions for me. It does sound like you might be putting some pressure on to your body to perform that could be some of why you're not feeling a lot of sensation there. Too, the whole of the clitoris is WAY big...
by Heather
Tue Nov 07, 2023 9:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm getting scared again
Replies: 5
Views: 16649

Re: I'm getting scared again

I'm not going to engage with you around the questions where you're asking us to repeat answers we have already given you. Not only did we already answer those -- and of course our answers were truthful and accurate -- but you're asking us to engage with your anxiety in a way we know not to be helpfu...
by Heather
Mon Nov 06, 2023 10:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 20 year old virgin
Replies: 5
Views: 10931

Re: 20 year old virgin

This is very clearly an emotionally abusive relationship that is becoming sexually abusive. The only thing that anyone can do to do right by themselves in that situation is to get out, or, if they need time to do that -- like because they live with the person, or have kids with them -- to make a pla...
by Heather
Mon Nov 06, 2023 9:23 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?
Replies: 25
Views: 153380

Re: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?

It sounds to me like what they were probably trying to do was to help you be sure that any bloodwork they repeated would be covered by your insurance.
by Heather
Mon Nov 06, 2023 9:22 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: masturbation
Replies: 11
Views: 39074

Re: masturbation

Hey there, emi. Not everyone is comfortable getting a sex toy through a parent, so if you're not, that's okay. If you are, though, looking at your posts here and what you have said about what you enjoy so far, it sounds like a vibrator meant for external (as in, not inside the vagina, but on the ext...
by Heather
Mon Nov 06, 2023 9:18 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel bad about masterbating at home?
Replies: 3
Views: 7119

Re: I feel bad about masterbating at home?

Hey there.

Can you talk to me a little bit about why this feels "wrong" to you? Like, what's wrong about masturbating with other people in the same home or building as you?
by Heather
Mon Nov 06, 2023 9:17 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Can't find / feel clitoris
Replies: 5
Views: 24920

Re: Can't find / feel clitoris

Hi there, Osumilite. Welcoem to the boards. :) Before I say anything else, I have a couple questions to fill in some information gaps for myself about your situation. 1) Have you ever had a sexual health exam where a healthcare provider physically examined your genitals? 2) Have you ever seen the ex...
by Heather
Mon Nov 06, 2023 9:12 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I just can't finish
Replies: 13
Views: 16182

Re: I just can't finish

Hi ther, Jenschmii. I would strongly advise that you not approach any masturbation with the mindset of trying to reach orgasm. That's something called "spectatoring" -- this thing where people are sexual and are super focused on making orgasm happen -- and it's onle of the things most asso...
by Heather
Mon Nov 06, 2023 9:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm getting scared again
Replies: 5
Views: 16649

Re: I'm getting scared again

Hi again, Yohanz. So, the crux of what you're4 saying here is that months after a pregnancy risk that probably wasn't even a risk, you are still having a great deal of anxiety. That makes this an anxiety problem, not a pregnancy risk problem. You also make clear that you haven't figured out ways to ...
by Heather
Sun Nov 05, 2023 11:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hard lump in vagina
Replies: 3
Views: 10390

Re: Hard lump in vagina

It does sound like you think: that it's your cervix. And, because when we're pooping, we're both generally sitting at an angle, and pushing on muscles to move our bowels, it absolutely can happen that the cervix is closer to the vaginal opening then and much easier to feel. I don't personally think ...
by Heather
Sun Nov 05, 2023 11:20 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: wanting to publish a story with a sex scene
Replies: 1
Views: 7182

Re: wanting to publish a story with a sex scene

Hi there, Lyle. What you're asking about is both fiction and text-based (IOW, not an image of any kind). I don't know of any laws in the west that restrict minors from this or criminialize this. I can't speak to morality, since, unlike laws, it is entirely subjective and varies a whole lot from pers...
by Heather
Thu Nov 02, 2023 1:37 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?
Replies: 25
Views: 153380

Re: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?

(I thought you were asking me to call and make healthcare appointments for you, or I would have told you that you or I can't call insurance companies or labs and order you testing before now. Sorry if I misunderstood!)
by Heather
Thu Nov 02, 2023 1:35 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?
Replies: 25
Views: 153380

Re: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?

Well, you won't usually be able to order your own blood work through insurance, anywhere, period. Or other tests. You need a healthcare provider to order those tests on your behalf. Patients can't just order their own tests, for the most part. What a given PP provider/branch can do varies a lot betw...
by Heather
Thu Nov 02, 2023 10:40 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?
Replies: 25
Views: 153380

Re: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?

(Just FYI, Jay, I have been keeping my eyes open for an email from you since yesterday and am not seeing one. If you still want me to make that call for you, I am done with work today at 5 CST, and will not be back in again until Sunday, so will need the info from you I posted about needing sent to ...
by Heather
Thu Nov 02, 2023 8:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Seman vs "pre cum or pre ejaculate"
Replies: 2
Views: 1157

Re: Seman vs "pre cum or pre ejaculate"

Okay, so here we go: Semen is the fluid that (sparing people with conditions that change this for them) contains sperm cells and is released with a full ejaculation. Pre-ejaculate (or "pre-cum") is a fluid that is usually also secreted by the penis, but often long before an ejaculation. Al...
by Heather
Wed Nov 01, 2023 5:58 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?
Replies: 25
Views: 153380

Re: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?

Better to know 20 years ahead, if you ask me. Since it wasn't timed with your period, it IS possible that that's the reason for your mid-cycle bleeding, and if that's the case, it should stop doing that in a couple more cycles. When started with a period, that tends to be less likely. Still, and all...
by Heather
Wed Nov 01, 2023 2:30 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?
Replies: 25
Views: 153380

Re: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?

I'm very sorry to tell you that this having spotting or bleeding you can't predict, sometimes for weeks at a time, is also a thing you'll likely experience with perimenopause, just so you can brace yourself in advance. This might sound like a foolish question, but by any chance did you start taking ...
by Heather
Wed Nov 01, 2023 1:04 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?
Replies: 25
Views: 153380

Re: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?

Why don't you email me all the specifics, then, and I can do that for you tomorrow. My email (written this way to keep me from getting bot spam) is h.corinnaATscarleteenDOTcom. What I will need is: • your legal name, address and contact info • your birthdate • your insurance number • the phone numbe...
by Heather
Wed Nov 01, 2023 12:01 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Inexperience or assault?
Replies: 10
Views: 18349

Re: Inexperience or assault?

Hi there, phenolphtalein. The sense that I am getting from your posts is that what's really going on here is that you are having fears when it comes to cancel culture, but that you're also upholding some parts of that that really are very problematic, like equating accidentally hurting someone's bod...
by Heather
Wed Nov 01, 2023 11:39 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I’m a freak
Replies: 3
Views: 7440

Re: I’m a freak

Hey there, DiverDoubt. So, I'm not someone for whom "freak" or not being considered normal is a bad thing (so it's tough for me to understand some of this), but you're making it clear here that you are in pain, and it sounds like it's around feeling not-normal, or not-common. Can you say a...
by Heather
Wed Nov 01, 2023 8:10 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?
Replies: 25
Views: 153380

Re: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?

I also would be happy to make a health call for you if you'd like if you can fill me in on all the information. I live with CFS (chronic fatigue syndrome) and other chronic pain and illness, so I totally get being too tried or just worn out with a lot of healthcare engagement to make calls for appoi...
by Heather
Wed Nov 01, 2023 8:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 16 Year old Virgin
Replies: 3
Views: 8165

Re: 16 Year old Virgin

Being new somewhere can be really hard, especially when school and home are the only places you can interact with people. I'm sorry that you're feeling so isolated and alone. My best advice is to try and start by making friends, rather than to try and start with any kind of romantic or sexual overtu...