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by Heather
Wed Apr 03, 2024 12:29 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: can't finger myself. vaginismus?
Replies: 16
Views: 4126

Re: can't finger myself. vaginismus?

Lyle, what you are describing to me does sound just like a septate hymen, and I'm betting that's what it is: that's hymenal tissue wearing away in such a way that more than one opening formed and is widening. That's one of several typical variations with hymens, and you'll find it in the link Sam sh...
by Heather
Wed Apr 03, 2024 12:27 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: am i pregnant ?
Replies: 2
Views: 681

Re: am i pregnant ?

Just a reminder that we have content that answers questions like this very easily! You'll find it here, for starters: https://www.scarleteen.com/read/can-i-g ... r-pass-sti
by Heather
Tue Apr 02, 2024 12:20 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Stand up for myself, or walk away?
Replies: 6
Views: 1444

Re: Stand up for myself, or walk away?

Hey again. I was going to say that what Sam said right up there -- before you posted it -- resonated with me, too. I don't think any of these choices seem to involve NOT standing up for yourself. After all, this whole set of choices is about you and centering your own needs and goals and feelings. A...
by Heather
Mon Apr 01, 2024 3:00 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Stand up for myself, or walk away?
Replies: 6
Views: 1444

Re: Stand up for myself, or walk away?

Hey there, E_F. We've talked before, and while I'm not glad this is the reason you're here, I'm glad to see you back. I'm wondering: do you think it's worth exploring other avenues that could help you attend college? I'm not sure how wealthy your family or school district is, but if the answer isn't...
by Heather
Mon Mar 25, 2024 3:56 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Experience in group sex
Replies: 5
Views: 820

Re: Experience in group sex

I do want to add a thing! Group sex is going to vary just as much -- if not more so -- as sex with any one given partner is. I say even more so because more people partnered with more people = exponentially more possible variation. So, in a lot of ways, asking someone what their group sex experience...
by Heather
Wed Feb 21, 2024 7:29 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Is "forgetting" abuse possible?
Replies: 14
Views: 3013

Re: Is "forgetting" abuse possible?

Hi there, Ayn. I have been out this week with illness, but in checking in, I have noticed your thread and wanted to pop in today on it. I'm the person Willa was offering up for you to talk with in chat if you want. I'm in and from Chicago, I was unhoused on and off here in my teens and some of my tw...
by Heather
Wed Feb 14, 2024 3:50 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hormones
Replies: 5
Views: 674

Re: Hormones

Absolutely. It just may be that it takes you some time to accept them. It might help to recognize that these feelings can't just be boiled down to hormones. Sure, a handful of different neurochemicals (things like dopamine and testosterone) are often part of sexual desires or arousal, but that's jus...
by Heather
Wed Feb 14, 2024 3:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hormones
Replies: 5
Views: 674

Re: Hormones

Hey there. You haven't said specifically what this certain way is that you feel, but from the sounds of things, I'm guessing you're asking about feelings of arousal or sexual desire? If so, you're right: those feelings do tend to be a kind that will just come and go without us having to make any eff...
by Heather
Wed Feb 14, 2024 3:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 9
Views: 2110

Re: Masturbation

It's all good!
by Heather
Wed Feb 14, 2024 10:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 9
Views: 2110

Re: Masturbation

Hey, FullofQuestions. before anything else, I just want to drop a gentle reminder that girl-girl porn, a thing made for entertainment and profit (and also mostly for cishet men), and lesbians -- real, whole people -- and lesbian sex -- sex lesbians are having between each other, not for someone else...
by Heather
Thu Feb 08, 2024 11:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: what on earth is going on why do I need to piss when im aroused
Replies: 1
Views: 1117

Re: what on earth is going on why do I need to piss when im aroused

Hi there.

Chances are good that if you didn't urinate before masturbation, it's just because once we start engaging the muscles of that area, it tends to also stimulate the bladder and thus, often will create a need to pee.
by Heather
Wed Feb 07, 2024 11:52 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hello
Replies: 31
Views: 13819

Re: Hello

Phoenix:

I mostly just wanted to pop in and express my shared joy with Sam at seeing you and hearing that you're doing well. I also wanted to add that Phoenix is also the chosen name of one of my favorite friends, who is a marvelous person, so you're in good company!
by Heather
Wed Feb 07, 2024 11:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have trouble to masturbate
Replies: 17
Views: 2618

Re: I have trouble to masturbate

Gotcha. For sure, I would say erotic dreams often are a place where people feel more relaxed and freer sexually than in waking hours, or when sexuality is more tethered to real-life experiences and relationships. This might also be a helpful clue for you: perhaps masturbation that you connect more t...
by Heather
Wed Feb 07, 2024 11:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship Situation regarding partners ex fwb
Replies: 3
Views: 1190

Re: Relationship Situation regarding partners ex fwb

I'm glad that you were able to talk about that and that your needs have felt more met lately when it's come to communication with her. You know, since it sounds like she doesn't entirely know why she responded, I don't think that you or I are going to be able to figure it out. But she did offer up t...
by Heather
Wed Feb 07, 2024 7:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have trouble to masturbate
Replies: 17
Views: 2618

Re: I have trouble to masturbate

So, maybe we are having another language issue, but a wet dream is a very specific thing that only happens to people with penises. It’s an involuntary ejaculation of semen very specifically from the testes and penis.
by Heather
Wed Feb 07, 2024 6:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have trouble to masturbate
Replies: 17
Views: 2618

Re: I have trouble to masturbate

So, a sexologist is someone who studies human sexuality. Maybe you mean a sex therapist? If so, I don’t see anything so far they seem likely to be able to help you with, particularly if depression is at the root of your limited ability to experience pleasure and that depression isn’t yet treated. Th...
by Heather
Wed Feb 07, 2024 6:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have trouble to masturbate
Replies: 17
Views: 2618

Re: I have trouble to masturbate

Might you be able to seek out a new mental healthcare provider, with the aim of addressing your depression, and the understanding that that will require more than just a couple appointments?
by Heather
Wed Feb 07, 2024 5:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship Situation regarding partners ex fwb
Replies: 3
Views: 1190

Re: Relationship Situation regarding partners ex fwb

Hi there, yakov. Welcome to the boards. It sounds to me like the talks you have had with your partner haven't really left you feeling resolved, both about the way she is engaging with previous sexual partners, but even more about how you don't feel like she's connecting with you in the way that you ...
by Heather
Wed Feb 07, 2024 5:48 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Posting explicit descriptions of violence
Replies: 0
Views: 2660

Posting explicit descriptions of violence

Hey, everyone. We have recently had an uptick in users posting unnecessary and explicit descriptions of violence of some kind, namely: • explicit descriptions of self-harm or harm to others they are thinking about • fantasy or other descriptions of "wanted" sexual violence • violence as pa...
by Heather
Wed Feb 07, 2024 5:33 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can’t Finish While Masterbatig
Replies: 5
Views: 2792

Re: Can’t Finish While Masterbatig

Feeling "finished" when it comes to sex is often just that: we know we're finished because we stop being interested or engaged with sex, whether that's alone or with partners. It seems like you do know when you feel finished, it's that feeling of being done, of like you have had enough. Fe...
by Heather
Wed Feb 07, 2024 5:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have trouble to masturbate
Replies: 17
Views: 2618

Re: I have trouble to masturbate

It might help to understand that the clitoris, or any other body part with a lot of sensory nerve endings, isn't where feelings of pleasure start or how we experience them: that's our brain and central nervous system. Body parts like the clitoris are essentially just conduits. So, by all means, if y...
by Heather
Tue Feb 06, 2024 11:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have trouble to masturbate
Replies: 17
Views: 2618

Re: I have trouble to masturbate

So, for starters, it sounds to me like doing this with your boyfriend is only creating stress for you right now. I'd suggest you opt out of masturbation together for the time being, and share with him that you're having some issues with it that make it stressful for you instead of pleasurable so he ...
by Heather
Wed Jan 31, 2024 1:15 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: stressed about having feelings for a friend
Replies: 9
Views: 2509

Re: stressed about having feelings for a friend

What if you start asking him for something now, like a talk about your friendship? Honestly, I'm not seeing a whole lot of good here, certainly not enough to balance out the bad, but it also seems like there are some unknowns. How about talking to him about how you have been feeling, including some ...
by Heather
Wed Jan 31, 2024 11:22 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: stressed about having feelings for a friend
Replies: 9
Views: 2509

Re: stressed about having feelings for a friend

Oh goodness, that's such a long time to be carrying this much stress! I do think that given the time that has passed, and the fact that you do actually know this person well, as well as the rest of what you have shared this sounds a lot bigger than a crush to me. This sounds like you simply have a g...
by Heather
Wed Jan 31, 2024 10:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First time
Replies: 1
Views: 1435

Re: First time

Welcome to the boards, and I for sure have some suggestions! First up, for anyone -- no matter what their previous or current experience -- sex of any kind with a brand new parter to them is rarely going to be the best sexual experience for anyone involved. That's because it usually takes time for p...