I'd like to add some questions:

Do you feel that you can trust your boyfriend? If the answer is yes (kinda going off of Jacobs' questions) what do you feel will happen if they continue their relationship?

(I like snorkmaiden's suggestions!) It sounds with you are dealing with a lot! College is already a huge stressor on its own, but you have a lot more going on. Try not to be so hard on yourself and let it be okay for you to feel however you are feeling. So basically, you don't have to justify your e...

Hi Dandelion, First I'd like to say that it takes a great level of strength to open up about abuse. Good for you. I'm very sorry that you have been feeling like a burden to your friends, especially since the support they provided seems like an important part of working through past abuse. I don't kn...

Hi Concerned, Sorry the pas couples of days have been so rough :( Sounds like you might be in need of some self care. This article is a great overview if this is not something you are already use to doing: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/abuse_assault/selfcare_a_la_carte But one thing I'd recommen...

Hi h_17, Yes it is possible, but very unlikely(for no sexual contact). If you want a more detailed answer you can find it here. http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/without_sexual_contact_could_i_have_an_sti For future reference, there is a link to an article that will tell you the risk associat...

Hey Alixana, Seems that you and your former physician have already identified what's going on here. Try not to be so hard on yourself, this is something that definitely won't change over night. I can also see how your then-boyfriend making this worse with his comments causing you to put more pressur...

And if you are looking for more information on your level of protection you can find it here: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexua ... ol_with_a_

Hi Loona, I have to agree with Heather that he has been pretty clear in saying that he doesn't want to go any further. That can be hard to deal with especially when you might have been hoping for something else. I can't say why he is ignoring you, but it seems to me that this is something that he do...

Yes. So since you took Saturday and Sunday's pill today, take Sunday's pill from the spare pack tomorrow and continue as usual.

Okay, great! You could also pull the pill from that packet.

Hi Silverc, Continue to take your pill as usual. Anytime that you have a concern about effectiveness you should back up with condoms. Now that you have a pill missing from your packet, it is best to refer to the informational packet or consult with your doctor/pharmacist who can provide specific dir...

Hi Mutis, Heather is away for the day but I wanted to make sure your message was addressed. From what I have read it seems like you have already given some thought to ways you can stay safe in the home. A few things I might add is navigating lunch/dinner since that is when most of the violence seems...

Hi AnnahPanda, Welcome to the boards. It's great that you are concerned with what your crush is comfortable with, but can I suggest that you back up a bit? Sounds like the first thing you want to do is see if you all are on the same or a similar page. How about talking to your crush about your feeli...

Hi Sara26, I'm not very familiar with leave policies, so I will ask another staff/volunteer to get back with you. However, 3 months is more in the realm of short term disability which would likely need to be documented. As far as college, you can look at your institutions policies about taking a lea...

Hey nokatprotested,

Other users had a similar thought as you! Why don't you check out this thread? http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=25&t=1892

A couple of other users have already posted and you might find it helpful as well.

Just want to make sure you see that Heather provided you links above.

Happy to hear this all worked out so well! Please let us know if you need any additional assistance when it comes to seeking healthcare!!!

Most users (but not all) say that their partner doesn't feel it during sex if it is inserted correctly. So it's one of those things you won't know until you try.

Disposable cups like you mentioned are a good option. You might just want to insert a new one before sex. Can also see if a female condom works better for you. If mess is a concern, another option is continuing to use the condom and having a towel handy to cover the surface or just there to wipe as ...

Since you are still having those fears, taking a pregnancy test is your next best step. I'm having a hard time finding resources in Colombia, but I will check in with other volunteers to see if they can point you in the right direction. In the meantime it is a good idea to check in with your univers...

oh no problem, I figured you didn't mean anything by it but it is just important to note (and just something I'm admittedly extra about)! I'm glad the information was helpful let us know if you need anything else

Hi gkc24, The 2% failure rate is for use over a year's time, not each time a person uses a condom. So in a year's use there is a 2% chance of there being some type of failure that includes the condom tearing, slipping off, or it not being used at all. All of those things would be very obvious. Takin...

If you feel comfortable giving me more specific info about your location, I can look into it mental healthcare resources. An area or region that you have access to. Do you attend a university/college by chance? Also, why don't we figure out some ways that you can practice better self care? Looking b...

Hi kuraimuin, Getting it out the way, if you are having your period it is safe to assume that you are not pregnant. You seem very insightful, and you are aware of where some of your fears and discomfort are coming from. A mental health professional could help you unpack this more but also help you w...

Awesome!