Hey Sam, To answer your first question, I'm more nervous about their reaction to something. Like when and if I bring up the conversation of sex that they'll be very turned off by the way I try to approach it or that they're just uninterested in general. There's also just the aspect of feeling embarr...

Hey Mo,

Thank you for providing the words of reassurance. My date and I have been texting a lot and she's excited to see me!

I'll keep y'all updated!

Thanks again!

Hey Mo, I reread this a few times and every time my initial thoughts were "Many people don't like this and will either that it's weird or unattractive". Then I saw the last line and reconsidered the statement. I also notice with myself I have a great deal of anxiety, fear and embarrassment...

Hi Siân, This does make more sense. I guess being single I often approach my sexual desire as something that needs to go away. Like there's something dirty or bad about finding people (or at least women and more femme people) attractive. My first reactions are don't look or stare, don't focus on the...

Hey al! I guess for this date on Sunday, I'm nervous I won't know what to do if things escalate with this person. They're pretty flirtatious with me and they were actually the one who asked me out first. So I'm nervous because I feel flustered from the flirting. Not in a bad way, just in a "my ...

Hey y'all,

I wanted to update this and will probably make a public post other users can respond to.

Good news: I have a date on Sunday!
Bad news: My anxiety is through the roof over it

I'll manage hopefully, until then thanks for all of your responses!

Hi Sam, Initially, when I read the statement about some people wanting to schedule sex too I'll admit my first thoughts were "Yeah, I'm sure they are", "Yeah but not with me" or "Maybe, but it's not gonna happen"/"Yeah but I'll never find them". These intrusiv...

Hey Amanda, I haven't tried less mainstream apps for that reason. There aren't as many people so it sort of makes looking even harder. Unless it's somehow entirely LGBTQ+ only and has a much better algorithm then I don't think it could help me much more than the ones I'm currently using. Feel free t...

Hey Heather, I guess what I'm hearing to do a series of observations without attaching any positive or negative meaning to it and seeing how I feel about it without feeling like there's a correct way to get off or function in regards to sex. I guess I may have worded it weirdly but overall I don't r...

Hey Amanda, While I thank for validating my experiences I feel like what's happening is more intentional than anything else. Sure I understand I won't always be in the mood for sex but whatever I know arouses me is presented I hardly or never respond to it in the same way. I've always hated how stro...

Hey Heather, My sex drive was pretty active before T but the feeling of being adapted to masturbating, doing so out of habit and not getting off with a partner were still apparent. Pre-T I had no idea how to physically pleasure myself with a partner. I was happy to get them off and felt a sense of p...

Hey Sam, So yes, I feel like I can't get an erection. With arousal in general it varies. I can feel my face get hot and feel very flustered in response to any sort of stimuli in person but other than that I can't really tell. With T being a factor it was much more the opposite! I was extremely horny...

Hey Mo, I'm really happy you can relate to what I'm going through. This is actually one of the many big reasons why I still don't present in a more feminine way despite (at a certain point in time) feeling comfortable enough to do so. I no longer feel comfortable nor am I completely free of physical...

Hey y'all, So this is a topic I've been curious about for some time now. Is it possible for a transmasc person on T to develop erectile dysfunction? In past posts I've had my concerns over what amount of masturbation is too much. Now I feel like I have a better idea because it's notably effecting my...

Hey Alexa, I wanna thank you so much for validating my experiences. That coping skill sounds like something I should try more often. Also an extra thanks to validating my gender expression. I almost constantly feel like I need to express my gender a very specific way to attract the people I want and...

Hey Siân, Sometimes that perspective on dating feels a bit tiring at times. For the most part though, I'm very neutral about this way of thinking and typically don't care one way or the other. Like yeah it can suck but the best I can do is cope with those feelings and move on. All these resources on...

Hey Mo! I'm happy to hear from you. The frustration is a hard yes! I've been on and off deleting dating apps from my phone for months but after careful consideration I want to try and be consistent with them for a while despite them not being nonbinary friendly. I definitely get that approaching it ...

Hi Heather, Thank you so much for the reassurance it really helps to dispel a lot of my anxiety from posting again. As for the diagnoses, with bipolar disorder it was definitely tough because I was told I'd have to start medication. While I was still talking to my ex girlfriend, she helped me dispel...

Hey, I haven't used this account in along time. I want to apologize to the staff of Scarleteen but also thank them for doing more than what was required of them to help move me forward from the last time I posted. It turns out I am on the Bipolar spectrum AND that I'm on the Autism spectrum. So I co...

Okay, so another issue that I haven't been feeling all too great about is seeking casual sex partners and not knowing their age. I know late teens and early 20s can be a bit odd for everyone but it's definitely feels messy when you're going out hoping to have casual sex and finding out someone is a ...

Hi Sam,

That sounds like a great start to helping myself recognize how to interact with my sexual responses in a healthier way. Thank you!

This approach sounds good! I have a different topic that maybe should go into a new post. But this sounds like a good way to start the conversation!

Okay so I touched on this in another post I made. I'm 9 months on T, I had top surgery and I have prosthetic that works for me in sexual situations. The problem (aside from not knowing how to directly ask if someone I'm interested in wants to have sex) is that I sort of flipped out on myself interna...

Hey y'all, So I'm recently single and letting myself go out and have casual sex. The problem is the last two times I had sex since leaving my relationship I wasn't super turned on at all. One of them I stopped halfway through and jist went home. The other I just didn't feel like I was "into it&...

Hey Heather, I've been leaning on my close friends and my sister (one of my best friends) pretty hard these past few days. I also recognize I'm still a person who likes and is highly interested in sex so I'm still allowing myself to explore that. (I've redownloaded an app or two for this reason). Wh...