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Sexual Safety: Lubri"can't" figure some stuff out
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Sexual Safety: Lubri"can't" figure some stuff out
Hi there! I hope I'm posting under the right thread here... Sorry if I am not!
Anyways.
My partner and I are... Ahem... Interested in anal sex. There. I said it. My problem here is that I, the one who is to be doing the penetrating, do not have a penis. As a gender-fluid individual, I'll be using either a strap-on or a prosthetic, and both are made of silicone.
My partner doesn't much care for oil based lubricants, and I have no idea how safe oil based lubricant is for silicone. Water based lubricants aren't really reccomended for anal sex because the anus and rectum don't produce much (if any) natural lubricant, and water is too quickly absorbed and evaporated to properly lubricate that drier area. Silicone based lubricants will destroy my strap on or prosthetic, and I greatly value both. (The prosthetic was crazy expensive!)
So I can't use oil, water, or silicone based lubricant, but I really need to use lubricant to protect my partner! Are there any other options? Am I stuck with oil based? S.O.S! (Save Our Silicone!)
Anyways.
My partner and I are... Ahem... Interested in anal sex. There. I said it. My problem here is that I, the one who is to be doing the penetrating, do not have a penis. As a gender-fluid individual, I'll be using either a strap-on or a prosthetic, and both are made of silicone.
My partner doesn't much care for oil based lubricants, and I have no idea how safe oil based lubricant is for silicone. Water based lubricants aren't really reccomended for anal sex because the anus and rectum don't produce much (if any) natural lubricant, and water is too quickly absorbed and evaporated to properly lubricate that drier area. Silicone based lubricants will destroy my strap on or prosthetic, and I greatly value both. (The prosthetic was crazy expensive!)
So I can't use oil, water, or silicone based lubricant, but I really need to use lubricant to protect my partner! Are there any other options? Am I stuck with oil based? S.O.S! (Save Our Silicone!)
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Re: Sexual Safety: Lubri"can't" figure some stuff out
Perhaps a condom over the intended phallus would be helpful in protecting both the hardware and my partner? If anything, my partner's safety, comfort, and happiness is what matters most, but daaaaang those prosthetics and strap ons are pricey!
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Re: Sexual Safety: Lubri"can't" figure some stuff out
Hi Hsurniarb,
A condom should help protect the toy, plus is a good call for basic sanitary purposes. Another thing that might work is to use a bunch of water based lube, rather than just a little, and plan to stop and reapply it as needed (that doesn't always feel like the sexiest option, but it's preferable to damaging the toy or causing the person discomfort/pain).
A condom should help protect the toy, plus is a good call for basic sanitary purposes. Another thing that might work is to use a bunch of water based lube, rather than just a little, and plan to stop and reapply it as needed (that doesn't always feel like the sexiest option, but it's preferable to damaging the toy or causing the person discomfort/pain).
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Re: Sexual Safety: Lubri"can't" figure some stuff out
Thank you very much! I will certainly go for that.
Do you know how oil based lubricant affects silicone at all? I couldn't figure that out.
Do you know how oil based lubricant affects silicone at all? I couldn't figure that out.
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Re: Sexual Safety: Lubri"can't" figure some stuff out
I'm finding some contradictory info as well, so can see how it would be confusing to work out. It looks like some oil based lubes can be damaging to silicone toys, as well as potentially the harnesses. However, you can try spot testing your toy. Put a little bit of the lube in question on the toy, and then rub it vigorously, then clean. If the spot feels the same as the rest of the toy, you're probably okay. If it feels stickier, then that lube is a no-go with that toy. So, it looks like water based is still the safest bet.
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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- Primary language: English, please.
- Pronouns: They/Them unless otherwise specified. (Gender flui
- Sexual identity: Pansexual, methinks.
- Location: United States
Re: Sexual Safety: Lubri"can't" figure some stuff out
Alrighty. Thanks so much!
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