The sex was different?

[Volleygirl22]

There's this guy I've been sleeping with. We've had sex a few times (but aren't officially dating yet). Usually when we have sex, for lack of a better word, it's rough. But not like crazy rough. We did it again today, and it was different. He was really gentle, and we did more positions where I could look at him more, and we could kiss more. Could there be a reason for this or is it just possible he's just changing things up a bit? I was going to ask about it, but at the time, I brushed that to the side

[Karyn]

He's the only person who knows what his reasons were, so if you're curious, you'll have to ask him. A lot of people - probably most - won't want exactly the same thing every time they have sex, so it's entirely possible that he just wanted something a bit more gentle this time but only he'd be able to say for sure.

How has the communication around sex been between you up to this point? I ask because from your post, it sounds like there might not be much communication before and during about what each of you would like and what you're in the mood for. Does that sound about right?

[Volleygirl22]

Communication hasn't been an issue so far. I don't have a problem telling him what I like and don't like, and it doesn't seem like he does either. I was going to ask at the time, but figured I'd wait until later. I did end up asking him if he'd want to be in an actual relationship, and he said yes. So we've made it official now too

[Heather]

Since it sounds like that was something you wanted, mazel tov!