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Any pointers for a girl in her first lesbian relationship?
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Any pointers for a girl in her first lesbian relationship?
Hi I'm new here so please be kind x Today was a big day for me, I'm 14 years old and I was asked out by my best friend of two years who has just recently came out, I always have had a bit of a crush on her so I was thrilled this is my first lesbian relationship and was wondering if anyone had any tips for me, it would be much appreciated. Thanks x
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Re: Any pointers for a girl in her first lesbian relationship?
Aw, congratulations! That's a big deal, and a great thing!
You know, there aren't really things anyone does differently in queer relationships. All the same stuff people do to have happy, healthy, mutually beneficial relationships apply to queer relationships. Would you like me to hook you up with some content about healthy relationships and dating?
Too, if you lead with the happyhappyjoyjoy you have going on now, that's always a super big player in relationships that everyone in them enjoys.
You know, there aren't really things anyone does differently in queer relationships. All the same stuff people do to have happy, healthy, mutually beneficial relationships apply to queer relationships. Would you like me to hook you up with some content about healthy relationships and dating?
Too, if you lead with the happyhappyjoyjoy you have going on now, that's always a super big player in relationships that everyone in them enjoys.
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Re: Any pointers for a girl in her first lesbian relationship?
Congrats! I'm bi (well bi curious anyway). I've been with another girl before and I'll admit it was pretty fun. I have a boyfriend now, and I kinda figured at one point that he'd think I was weird when I told him about it, but he didn't have any problem at all, and said it's great that I'm comfortable. Heather said what I would've said: other than the fact that it's a same sex relationship, there's nothing else different. It's still a relationship. Be yourself and have fun! It's not like you can't do certain relationship-y things. I've been in one same sex relationship before, and it went well, so feel free to ask if you want any other help Good luck
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Re: Any pointers for a girl in her first lesbian relationship?
Heather wrote:Would you like me to hook you up with some content about healthy relationships and dating?
Yes, that would be really helpful thanks!
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Re: Any pointers for a girl in her first lesbian relationship?
Hi Cellobello,
Congrats on the new relationship! I don't know if Heather will have some suggestions to add, but some pieces from us include:
Hello, Sailor! How to Build, Board and Navigate a Healthy Relationship
Supermodel: Creating & Nurturing Your Own Best Relationship Models
Congrats on the new relationship! I don't know if Heather will have some suggestions to add, but some pieces from us include:
Hello, Sailor! How to Build, Board and Navigate a Healthy Relationship
Supermodel: Creating & Nurturing Your Own Best Relationship Models
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Re: Any pointers for a girl in her first lesbian relationship?
I'd add one more to that list that I think might be a particularly good fit for you: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/gende ... ing_a_girl
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