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Hormones and sexuality

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Hi all

so basically I am a trans woman who has been on hormone replacement therapy for about 4 months so far. It has brought about a lot of changes so far but the biggest is in my sexuality. I can't have an orgasm like I used to before. I have looked around online but mostly I've come across things that deal with the anatomy I have in way that it dosen't work anymore. I don't ejuaculate anymore and I don't really get an erection like I used to. I still become aroused but it's not the same as it used to be.

I have been trying on my own to figure out how my body is supposed to work now but I would also like some guidance on the matter so if anyone could point me to something or given me some advice on how to reach organasm now I would appreciate it.
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Re: Hormones and sexuality

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Hi Darklady,

The biggest piece of advice I can offer you is something you're already doing: experimenting! By giving yourself the space to explore your body and try out different things, you're more likely in the long run to find something(s) that work for you. Plus, by treating the process as an exploration, you take some of the pressure off of orgasm, which can ironically (sometimes) make it easier to orgasm.

I found this round-up of advice for trans women on sexual pleasure and response. Not only does it have a lot of details, it also includes links to other resources that can give you even more suggestions http://early2bed.com/2014/02/05/trans-w ... x-awesome/ . One other thought I have is bringing some toys into the mix, if you haven't already. Toys can introduce new sensations that you may find work really well in stimulating your body's response. More sex positive/feminist stores will have sections in their online sites aimed at trans folks (this is sometimes under the heading "gender play" which I don't love) if you're looking for toy options.
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Re: Hormones and sexuality

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Hi Sam W

Thank ou so much for the link and the suggestion about toys. I will take your advice :)
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You're welcome! Hopefully the link will give you lots of useful information
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Re: Hormones and sexuality

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You might also find some helpful information if you research HRT used during menopause. The impacts are pretty similar, to my knowledge, and -- no shocker here, because: cissexism -- there's a lot more content and helps with that situation with HRT.
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