crush

[babyjaila]

i have a crush on a guy in my 3rd and 4th period classes and i want to know if he likes me. he laughs at all my jokes , when my friends talk about me to him he smiles , and he does sexual motions to flat surfaces when im around . does he like me or is it pretty much normal(we r 13)?

[Sam W]

Hi babyjaila and welcome to Scarleteen,

The way to find out if a crush shares your feelings is to ask them. It does seem like this guy enjoys your company, but if you want more detail than that you'll need to talk to him about that. Would you like some help coming up with ways to have that conversation?

(also, if you don't mind my asking, what are "sexual motions to flat surfaces?")

[babyjaila]

well (sexual motion on flat surfaces r like humping floors or walls )and he says that he wasnt just ready for a girlfriend yet what does that mean

[Heather]

I don't know about you, but personally if someone was humping the floor or wall to express their like for me, I'd presume they weren't ready for a girlfriend yet, either. That sounds snarky, but I actually mean it.

When someone says they aren't ready for a girlfriend or boyfriend, the takeaway from that is that they are saying they don't want one. That can be because they're not interested, because they don't feel at that in life yet, who knows, but ultimately, if someone tells us that and we want to be their boyfriend or girlfriend, we need to just figure that's not an option.