I know you guys get this a lot, but I can't get pregnant by manual-sex, right?

[amandamayes177]

I didn't actually have sex-- and my boyfriend didn't ejaculate. But I've been extremely stressed out and worrying ever since. This happened on November 13th. My period is due at the end of the month (last month it was the 27th) and I usually have cramps, and then within the hour or so I start my period. But the thing is, i've been having cramps for a week now, and no period. TMI- but he just fingered me? Could the pain in my lower abdomen just be underlying stress? I've taken two pregnancy tests and they were both negative. I tried going to the doctor to get a blood test, but they were closed due to thanksgiving holiday. Am I just over-reacting and freaking out? I am TERRIFIED of getting pregnant, and I have an appt to get birth control on dec 5th. I'm 18. I just wouldn't be able to handle it. I've been stressing so much that I lost weight, and haven't been eating well. This is not any sort of joke, I am actually 100% scared shitless. I cannot speak to my boyfriend about this, or my mom. The cramps are like usual PMS cramps, except I've had them for longer. I keep over-looking my symptoms, and freaking myself out even more. I am fatigue, but that isn't anything new. No nausea.

[Sam W]

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