Never been kissed

[Nicoletta]

I am 16 and sill haven't had my first kiss. I just want to get it over with so I can stop stressing about it and have fun. Unfortunately I'm too nervous to make the first move with anyone. Any advice?

[Karyn]

Welcome to the boards, Nicoletta.

Can I ask why it is that not having kissed anyone is stressing you out? And, is there anyone in particular you might want to kiss, or is it more of a general feeling?

[Nicoletta]

I think the reason it's stressing me out is because I'm afraid guys aren't attracted to me. And I know not to base my self worth on what other people think of me but sometimes it's a little hard not to.
I guess it's more of a general feeling. There are guys I know who I wouldn't say no to if they did kiss me, but there isn't anyone in particular.

[Karyn]

It can definitely be tough not to worry about what other people think of us! That's pretty human.

Really, the best thing you can do when you're feeling like you want to express your sexuality in some way with someone else (whether that's kissing, sex of some kind, whatever) is to seek out spaces where you get to meet new people and form new social connections. That way you up the chances of meeting someone who you find attractive/might want to kiss as well as the likelihood of meeting someone who finds you attractive. And, your first kiss - or any kiss! - is probably going to be more enjoyable if it's with someone you really want to kiss, rather than someone you're just sort of "meh" about or kissing to get it over with.

Does that help?

[Nicoletta]

Yes! Thank you! Realistically I've probably been overthinking the whole thing

[Karyn]

You're very welcome. Glad to help.