questioning sexuality during porn watching

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jurassicwars
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questioning sexuality during porn watching

Unread post by jurassicwars »

Recently i have finding myself jerking off to emo guy porn and whats the correct term to use shemales or trans sorry if i offend anyone just not sure what the correct term to use is and i find myself jerking off to them to and using images of emo guys to get off on to and i have a girlfriend and does me jerking off to this make me bi or bi curious or pansexual because i do find those things turn me on
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Re: questioning sexuality during porn watching

Unread post by Alice O »

hey jurassic wars,

i'm gonna reply to this post and your last post in your "is it wrong" thread all in the same place--

1. terminology: shemales is hurtful language and should be avoided. trans women is the appropriate term. now that sam w. and i have informed you of this, please use the respectful language moving forward.

2. gender 101: to clarify--gender and sex are two separate things. gender is about whether someone feels like a man, woman, somewhere in between, or neither, and sex is about what genitals someone has: vulva/vagina, penis/testes, or intersex. does that make sense?

3. your sexuality: by "emo guy" do you mean more feminine men? if so, it sounds like there are multiple genders (feminine men, trans and cis women) and anatomies (penises, vulvas/vaginas) that you are attracted to. what language you want to use to describe this is totally up to you! maybe it's bisexual, or questioning, or queer, or pansexual, or something else entirely. it seems like you are feeling a lot of anxiety around this sexuality question right now, and i'm wondering if it would help to get a clearer understanding of how much people's sexualities vary: Sexuality: WTF Is It, Anyway?

4. porn-watching: you asked sam w. if she thought it was wrong that you were looking at pornography. ultimately, only you can decide that! before getting in to this issue more deeply, i want to ask: how do you feel about engaging with pornography?
jurassicwars
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Re: questioning sexuality during porn watching

Unread post by jurassicwars »

to answer your question alice i find pornography to be enjoyable and its a good realese to use for when i am feeling horny or just want to fantasize about the things that turn me on like thinking its me getting sucked off by the emo guys and i think i do like the more feminime looking guys and the woman who look like guys to it really turns me on
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Re: questioning sexuality during porn watching

Unread post by Redskies »

It's worth knowing, too, that what a person likes in porn can be different than what they like in their own life. It's not uncommon. Usually, we wouldn't consider someone's porn preferences to be part of their orientation if those preferences were only part of a fantasy life and not attractions or desires in their own life.
The kyriarchy usually assumes that I am the kind of woman of whom it would approve. I have a peculiar kind of fun showing it just how much I am not.
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