how to Cum When *I* Want To?

[manyasurvey]

i am wondering that how to Cum When *I* Want To,for now i control ejaculation a little bit as per as i can with the following of "start and stop" rule(i read it at google) but after some stops i ejaculated automatically,i seen mens at porn that they r able to fuck until they wants for 40 min to 1 hr how can they do so,is it fake or real,if its real how can i be an superman too like them lol please help i m male

[Sam W]

Hi Manyasurvey,

To start off with, porn is not a good measure of what the average person experiences sexually. It's staged in way that allows it to look like people in it can sustain an erection for hours. It may help you to read about how sexual response and orgasm works, and what the average time before ejaculation is: Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide . http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodie ... nd_also_ow
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advic ... i_fix_this

Can I ask why being able to maintain an erection for a long time is important to you?

[manyasurvey]

as i see in porn that a girl desires a lot the cock and enjoying it a lot and i wants to extend that sexy/fuck time,as i experienced before that when i ejaculate suddenly then i was not satisfied fully and irritated too because of ejaculation was under in some minutes or in even under seconds i dont remembered clearly but after from when i started following stop and run rule ejaculation feels good and strong too but it was not under my control fully,i want to control my ejaculation fully so it can be happen or not,you see at the porn how they ejaculate at the end as they were in fully control(should i follow porn for good or it all false that i m seing?)

[Sam W]

Again, you're not going to want to base your expectations for sex on porn. It's staged for the camera, often with actors who are paid to act in a certain way. Ejaculation happens after a few minutes, not a few hours. Too, you and your partner are not going to have a very happy sex life if you focus on what women in porn like instead of what your partner likes. You'll experience far more pleasure if you communicate about your unique likes and dislikes, something that this article can help you do: Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist

Porn is very, very focused on penises and penetration but in reality most people with vaginas will not orgasm from penetration alone. They may enjoy it, but they may also enjoy clitoral stimulation, oral sex, and plenty of activities that don't involve the genitals. For the average person, sexual pleasure has to do with way more than how long their partner lasts before ejaculating. It sounds like it would be helpful to you to read this article right now: With Pleasure: A View of Whole Sexual Anatomy for Every Body