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The_Daydreamer
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Masturbation

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Hello, this might be an odd question for you guys. I think i have been mansturbating ever sience i was like 5 years old. Not with objects or anything like that, I just rubb myself or use a pillow. At frist, I didn't know what I was doing, it just felt good, but now I just realised. I had a lot of orgasms even though I am still a virgin. I'm almost 16 now and I tend to orgasm very quickly and it is not as intense as it was . Is this a problem? Will it be a problem in the future when i start having sex?
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Re: Masturbation

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Hi The_Daydreamer,

Nope, what you're describing isn't something to be concerned about. If you've been masturbating the same way since you were young, the pleasure and excitement that comes from it being a new experience has probably decreased. That may explain why masturbating still feels good but doesn't feel as intense as it once did. That change doesn't mean sex with a partner won't be pleasurable, because sex with another person introduces new sensations that can be very intense or exciting. Does that make sense?

As an aside, you may want to give this article a read as it talks about why virginity isn't as specific a concept as many people think: Magical Cups & Bloody Brides: Virginity in Context
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
The_Daydreamer
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Re: Masturbation

Unread post by The_Daydreamer »

Thank you so much.
Sam W
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Re: Masturbation

Unread post by Sam W »

You're welcome!
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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