Masturbation

[Chez]

Hey I’m a 13 year old boy and I want to try and start masturbating and I’ve looked at other comments and they are not that helpful to me so I just need the 411 on masturbating. (Without porn). I kind of know the basis of it but I want to try it without my parents finding out

[Sam W]

Hi Chez,

There's no one, specific way a person is supposed to masturbate. It depends a lot on what kind of touches, pressures, speeds, etc feel good to your body, and the simplest way to find that out is through experimentation. That same experimentation is going to apply to finding fantasies or other arousing thoughts that help masturbation be pleasurable. When you say other comments you've seen haven't been helpful, can you give me a sense of what information you were looking for and weren't finding?

When it comes to masturbating without your parents knowing, you'll want to do it somewhere that's private like a bedroom or bathroom so that they won't accidentally walk in on you.

[Chez]

I just meant that I’ve tried to masturbate before and nothing happens while I was following those tips. Also do I need visual stuff to help me have an orgasm?

[Heather]

That’s the kind of thing you have to find out for yourself, like so much with masturbation.

Really, how it all works is that everyone just experiments over time - a lifetime, really, since as with other kinds of sex, what we enjoy often shifts or changes - and finds out for themselves. It may simply take more time than you figured.