What to do?
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Masaka
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What to do?
Ex bf is giving away my nudes to a friend cause im at work in another state and wont give him the time of day. is that something to sue him over?
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Sam W
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Re: What to do?
Hi Masaka,
I'm so, so sorry that he is doing that to you. Whether or not he is doing something illegal depends on the state he lives in and what the laws are there. You can find a list of what states currently have laws against this here: https://www.cybercivilrights.org/revenge-porn-laws/ Would you feel comfortable contacting a sexual assault survivor's resource to ask for their help in figuring out next steps, including potential legal ones (many sexual assault and domestic violence prevention resources have expanded to include help with issues like revenge porn, which is what this is)?
I'm so, so sorry that he is doing that to you. Whether or not he is doing something illegal depends on the state he lives in and what the laws are there. You can find a list of what states currently have laws against this here: https://www.cybercivilrights.org/revenge-porn-laws/ Would you feel comfortable contacting a sexual assault survivor's resource to ask for their help in figuring out next steps, including potential legal ones (many sexual assault and domestic violence prevention resources have expanded to include help with issues like revenge porn, which is what this is)?
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Masaka
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Re: What to do?
Yes please now hes apologizing to me but im not buying. Ive blocked this man many times on all gaming media. He has been ignored and he has been warned to back off and move on.
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Sam W
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Re: What to do?
I think not believing him is an extremely good call, and I'm sorry he's continuing to push your boundaries. Are you comfortable telling me what county or city you live in so I can help you find some of those resources (too, you can usually find them by searching "city name" + "rape crisis center")?
Are you documenting his actions by doing things like saving or screenshoting emails and text messages? If not, that's something you may want to start doing, just in case you end up asking for formal legal protections from him (like a restraining order).
Given how unpleasant and draining this all sounds, how are you feeling right now? Do you have people in your life who are supporting you while you're dealing with this?
Are you documenting his actions by doing things like saving or screenshoting emails and text messages? If not, that's something you may want to start doing, just in case you end up asking for formal legal protections from him (like a restraining order).
Given how unpleasant and draining this all sounds, how are you feeling right now? Do you have people in your life who are supporting you while you're dealing with this?
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.