Getting intimate
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lesbihonest
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Getting intimate
My girlfriend and I (f/f) have had sex. But we’ve never seen each other naked... we’re both kinda too scared, and i think she’s more scared than i am. how do i make her feel comfortable with seeing each other naked?
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Siân
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Re: Getting intimate
hey lesbihonest 
Welcome to the boards!
So you can't make someone comfortable with something - in fact when our partner reaallly wants something and we're not sure that can make it even scarier if we feel pressured. What you can do is help build a relationship where you both feel happy and comfortable in general, and are good at talking about sex and respecting boundaries, so everyone feels safe trying new things - even if they might then decide they don't want to do it again for a while (or ever). The best way to do that is to talk about things! Have you read this: Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner?
A great place to start might be going through our checklist with your girlfriend and thinking about the things you are both really into doing/trying and what you might need a bit of time to get around to: Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist How does that sound?
Welcome to the boards!
So you can't make someone comfortable with something - in fact when our partner reaallly wants something and we're not sure that can make it even scarier if we feel pressured. What you can do is help build a relationship where you both feel happy and comfortable in general, and are good at talking about sex and respecting boundaries, so everyone feels safe trying new things - even if they might then decide they don't want to do it again for a while (or ever). The best way to do that is to talk about things! Have you read this: Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner?
A great place to start might be going through our checklist with your girlfriend and thinking about the things you are both really into doing/trying and what you might need a bit of time to get around to: Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist How does that sound?