In my own personal opinion, I think that it is my responsibility now as a member of this online community to point out some particular flaws in Heather's, a founder and director of "scarleteen: as well as the woman who took down the other girl's post, reasoning. Number one was: "We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy."
Anybody on this website with able vision can clearly see the words "pregnancy and parental abuse" as well as inclusive , supportive . Not to mention the fact that the scarleteen slogan branded across the entirety of the top left corner of the home screen labels this website as having sexuality and relationships info for teens and emerging adults. Let's not forget to mention the fact that scarleteen is also supposed to be a "safe and sound place to talk about sex". Heather then goes on to say "Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is locked, it is because you have posted this kind of question." That's funny, I thought that this website was supposed to be safe and sound
? She was clearly scared. She was clearly asking an innocent question. All I am saying on that matter in particular is that the hostility was not needed. If you would like to read the thread for yourself here it is: http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?t=4530 They claim to not like the post because it was made by someone who had a pregnancy scare but wasn't really pregnant which I thought was very inconsiderate of the emotional torment that sexually active teen girls and guys may go through considering all that is at risk here when we are sexually active. For a website that claims to be "an inclusive safe space for all uwu" the staff sure do not take a liking for people with apparent anxiety around being at risk for pregnancy which happens, you know, EVERY TIME YOU HAVE SEX. These people aren't crazy, and they aren't being unreasonable. I believe that scarleteen ought to reconsider their ever-so-rigid terms and conditions.
To go on, I looking over the terms and conditions, I see that it says that some of the posts and behaviors that are not allowed on this site are "• How to perform specific sexual activities (i.e., "How do I give a blow job?" "What are some new sexual positions?")
• Illegal drug use or abuse, or illegal or patently unsafe sexual activities (i.e., bestiality, rape, incest, intentionally transmitting disease or infection, etc.)
• Stated intent to engage in potentially dangerous, harmful or illegal activities or practices" AND YET
NOT EVEN 2 MINUTES OF SEARCHING LATER, I see threads titled something along the lines of "I want more kink", "puppy play", "race play", and others. Not only that, but staff members themselves giving suggestions on kinky guide books as well. Not only that but it makes me wonder: "why are these types of questions swept under the rug, but actual fears are put on blast and then dealt with by locking the post and refusing them an answer?" It seems to me that there is a major flaw in the logic system on this site.
In short, it appears to me that scarleteen doesn't seem to understand that real world means real topics and real issues. Not just the bad stuff and not just the good. In the real world, people have anxiety surrounding pregnancy. Some people have crippling anxiety about just the possibility of getting pregnant through a sexual act. Calling yourself a real-world website and then not being able to handle real-world anxiety is unhelpful and all around uninclusive to those who just need a bit of reassurance. I hope that this website benefits from this little bit of reflection showing. Please look in a mirror and reconsider just how "real-world" and "inclusive, supportive, and safe-space uwu" you are.
If anyone would like to answer these three questions please be my guest as I will not be on the website for long due to the seemingly irrational and tyrannical methods of locking and refusal to answer simple, innocent, and anxious questions.
1. Why are entire threads focused on pregnancy scare and experiences with pregnancy scare by people who have actually become pregnant allowed, but questions on how sperm works and basic biology surrounding pregnancy not?
2. Can any of you share a time when your post was locked or taken down due to a strict and seemingly hypocritical rule such as this?
3. How long do you think my post will stay up? Give me a ballpark estimate
