Being Bisexual Enough

[IsaiahFlamez]

My name is Rashard, and I identify as bisexual. However, right now, I have no romantic attachments to anyone so it’s iust purely sexual feelings. I’ve never had relations with another male, but I do find some of them attractive. Does that still make me bisexual or am I just straight?

[Alice M]

Hi Rashard and welcome to Scarleteen!

I understand how complicated this can feel. We're all getting messages all of the time from our friends, family, media and culture about what sexuality is and what we should/shouldn't be. The good news is: you get to define your sexuality, with your own words, for you. No one gets to define your sexuality for you. What does that mean? This article really breaks down the different components of sexuality and defines it as an ecosystem. Have a look: Sexuality: WTF Is It, Anyway?
and come back with any questions/comments?

[IsaiahFlamez]

Does it say anything about bisexual men knowing they’re bisexual but not ever having a male sex partner?

[Alice M]

Yes -- it goes beyond that. "Everyone can have a sexuality, and that includes: People who have never had a sexual partner, people who don't ever want to have a sexual partner..." etc. Your experiences do not need to define your label (should you choose to have label your sexuality). This is about you and how you feel you identify.