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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2.5 years now, and the first year or so was LDR. We met online, then in person, then moved in together. At first, our sex was frequent, and a little wild. But as more stress got piled on, it got less, and less. Plus, the full blown honeymoon stage wore off. Expect for blowjobs, which he gets a lot of (maybe I should lessen those?) and him occasionally touching me, the sex is basically non-existent of late. All time low. Intercourse MAYBE once a month - and last month, none. At all. Still none.
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If he is feeling sexual and into sex, great! But if he is not, and only wants a BJ, he could either ask or, idk, not attempt to trick me into thinking there's going to be more??? I'm not even surprised anymore! I am actually assuming any time he seems frisky, that it is 100% to get a BJ! If he seems actually excited for more, it blindsides me.
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We are both under a LOT of stress at the moment too, so I know that is affecting this as well. He is way more into sex when there is less stress; I get that. I am too! Who isn't? But seriously, come on. Stop the teasing and love me!
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What I really want is advice on how to help ease the stress in our life. I've been doing some self-love lately, and minus this, feeling pretty good. Our stress issues are linked to financially bad decisions we made and are paying off. So that is a struggle, but we are paying that and dealing with it. And he just had to switch jobs, so does not help. What can I do to help with this stress? And what can I do to encourage him to be more into it when he actually seems to want sex or sexual contact? How can I talk to him without him getting defensive? How can I help teach him how to treat me in our bedroom?
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