Advice about giving oral to my partner.
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Advice about giving oral to my partner.
So I wanna suck my guy's dick buttt, I have a small mouth and a hella sensitive gag reflex. I mean I do like the concept of gagging on his dick when he's being rough, though my main concern is finding a way to relax my gag reflex and my jaw a bit without a gag because I'm concerned I'm gonna end up biting him out of reflex.
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Re: Advice about giving oral to my partner.
Hi KittyPink,
It's definitely important that both people are comfortable during any type of sex, and enjoying it as well. I find that a lot of the advice we give here has to do with going slowly and communicating a lot with your partner when it comes to any and all partnered sex. If you're comfortable, relaxed, and aroused -- you will probably have more "success" with your goals here. You could ask him to show you how he masturbates and build up to oral sex while staying as relaxed as you can. If it gets stressful or painful then it's just not going to be fun for anyone, or work very well for that matter.
Does that make sense? I don't believe there's any secret gag reflex *off* button.
I'd also encourage you to talk to him about your concerns so that he's aware of them. You may find that talking it out and experimenting helps a lot and brings you together in a fun way. He could have helpful ideas too.
It's definitely important that both people are comfortable during any type of sex, and enjoying it as well. I find that a lot of the advice we give here has to do with going slowly and communicating a lot with your partner when it comes to any and all partnered sex. If you're comfortable, relaxed, and aroused -- you will probably have more "success" with your goals here. You could ask him to show you how he masturbates and build up to oral sex while staying as relaxed as you can. If it gets stressful or painful then it's just not going to be fun for anyone, or work very well for that matter.
Does that make sense? I don't believe there's any secret gag reflex *off* button.
I'd also encourage you to talk to him about your concerns so that he's aware of them. You may find that talking it out and experimenting helps a lot and brings you together in a fun way. He could have helpful ideas too.
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