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Shower Sex

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GS_6
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Shower Sex

Unread post by GS_6 »

How can I initiate shower sex?

The idea really turns me on and I'd love some info on the subject.
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Re: Shower Sex

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Is there any info in particular you're looking for? What you'd want to be careful of when it comes to set during a shower is that if people are moving around or having any kind of sex that involves motion or not having both feet on the floor, there's a significant slipping/falling hazard, especially if you don't have things to hold onto or a grippy floor surface. You may also find that water-based lube, if you're having sex that lubricant is needed for, washes away quickly; silicone lube could be a bit more long-lasting if that's an issue.
The way you'd initiate it with a partner is really how you'd initiate any other kind of sex; ask them if it sounds like something that would be appealing and see how that conversation goes.
GS_6
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Re: Shower Sex

Unread post by GS_6 »

Thanks for that Mo. If you don't mind, may I ask some other questions?

> Can we still do foreplay?
> What are some ideal positions?
> Should we avoid using too much soap and/or water?
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Re: Shower Sex

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No one else can tell you the answers to the first two of these, because that's up to and about both of you, your wants and your bodies.

In terms of soap, you do NOT want to get soap *inside* anyone's vagina, specifically.
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GS_6
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Re: Shower Sex

Unread post by GS_6 »

Regarding the first two questions, my partner loves foreplay and as well as that I just wanted to know some basic positions to see what happens. I'm going to talk to my partner after so anything else would be a great help.
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Re: Shower Sex

Unread post by Heather »

Here's a piece on how we all figure out positioning for our unique bodies, partners and sexual lives: Left Foot, Red, Right Hand, Green: The Deal on Sex Positions.
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