Orgasms and HRT

[transfemandgay]

(Forgive me if I use dick/cock/pussy a lot, saying “penis” and “vagina” is a little weird to me)

I’m a no-op trans girl who wants to go on HRT. I’ve talked about this before on previous threads, but I’m a little worried about HRT because of what it’ll do to my sex drive, dick, orgasms, and all related. Over the past year, I’ve warned up to the idea of what HRT will do to my body, though.

Sex and sexual pleasure is extremely important to me, and, frankly, it’s integral to how I feel about my gender. My dick is feminine, and I want to keep it. I’ve also had an extremely high sex drive as far as I can remember, so I’m horny almost all the time. I don’t know how much of this could be related to my (possible) depression, anxiety, ADHD, and OCD, all things I’ve suspected I have for years.

I’ve explored various methods and forms of sexual pleasure by myself and with my girlfriend of two years. So I’m kinda stuck in my ways, I guess. I stroke up and down or thrust in and out until I cum, that’s about it. If I’m feeling really crazy, I’ll throw in some cock head stimulation before, during, or after, which I like, but usually my girlfriend has to do that since it’s so intense I physically can’t force myself. Anal is still something I’m exploring, but I haven’t done that stuff since quarantine started considering I only feel comfortable (and safe) douching and doing it at their place, not mine. Buttplugs feel good and look cool, though, and I’ve tried pegging but it’s very hard. However, male orgasms are short and localized, with the exception of head stimulation which gets me involuntarily writhing around. We also throw in some biting, kissing, nipple play, dom/sub dynamics, overstimulation... like a lot of things.

I know that HRT will make my erections less frequent and not as hard. But I think I’m fine with that so long as I have ED medicine and a cock ring. I also read an article where a trans woman injects herself with high doses of estrogen to maintain erections. I know pleasuring myself will take longer and be different. And I know orgasms will feel different as well, but how?

I’ve wanted to feel what a cis woman feels when they have a brain melting, writhing, uncontrollable 10 minute long full body orgasm that leaves them unable to stand for so long, since I discovered sex and porn. And I know HRT will help me feel those things. But I don’t have much in the department of pleasuring people with pussies to give myself an idea of what to do? I know some parts of the vagina are analogous to the penis. My girlfriend has a pussy, but we haven’t spent much time teaching me how to pleasure how because I’m a little bit of a germaphobe and bodily fluids gross me out a little.

I guess my question is like... what are orgasms like for no-op trans women on HRT and how do they get them? Considering I don’t know how to pleasure someone with a pussy, and for 10 years masturbation has consisted of stroking up and down for me. And, how can trans women get those mind melting orgasms I talked about? Do they feel different?

And, another question, for now with my pre-transition dick, how do I make orgasms more pleasurable? Masturbation seems repetitive and boring and it has for years. Plus, things I have done to make my orgasms more intense are usually too intense, at least for solo play. How do I find that middle ground considering my limited options?

Tell me everything about sex and orgasms with dicks, both with and without HRT.

[Sam W]

Hi transfemandgay,

We can certainly tell you a lot, but what we can't tell you is to have those orgasms you described seeing in porn, because that kind of orgasm just isn't realistic. Orgasms can and do vary in intensity, with some being really strong, but they're all pretty brief; even if they feel like they last a long time, they only take a few seconds. If you haven;t already read it, this article is a great guide to sexual response and orgasm, regardless of body parts: Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide.

From what we know, both about sexual response and HRT, trans women experience the same variation in orgasm intensity that everyone else does, regardless of whether they're on HRT. So, some days it doesn't feel like much (or it just doesn't happen), other days it feels pretty dang mind-blowing. As we've touched on in previous threads, some trans women have issues with arousal, masturbation, or orgasm once starting HRT, but even then that doesn't take orgasm off the table entirely.

What that all means in terms of your questions is that having stronger orgasms really depends on the person, as well as the circumstances. Things like which body parts are being stimulated, if/what kind of toys are being used, what fantasies a person is engaging in or watching, and overall mood can effect how intense an orgasm is. But even if we find the combination that gives us an intense orgasm on one day, bodies and minds are finicky enough that the same thing could lead to a pretty "meh" orgasm on another day.

Can I ask how your orgasms generally feel now? And, since the way you've been masturbating is boring you, have you tried things to mix it up?

[transfemandgay]

I’m circumcised so I’m not as sensitive as other people with penises (I think?). As long as I’ve been masturbating, most of the pleasure has come from nearing or when I was cumming. The rest really didn’t feel like much, but I have been trying to change that. Lube helps a lot, but I can’t buy any. Twisting my hand and going firmly and slowly also feels really good. And going from base to tip feels really intense, too. But, a quick session for me lasts 2 minutes average (I timed), and a longer one where I’m deliberately treating myself by edging takes maybe 5. It goes by too quick, orgasm and all, and the cleanup takes like forever. Plus, my orgasm feels more like just cum coming out of my fuck with barely any pleasure. If I am stimulating my head, or I’ve been edging, or I’ve been twisting my hand, then yes it feels intense but it still lasts like 5 seconds. I rarely, if ever, have an orgasm that feels so good it makes me shake or even moan?

I guess masturbation just feels like a chore for me instead of a hobby or something. The amount of effort I have to put in to it is too much for a 5 second orgasm. By changing it up, I’ve tried edging, head stimulation, nipple play, video chats with my girlfriend, doing it outside the bathroom (like in the sunlight of a window or in the family room), and different positions. I have stopped watching porn while doing it mostly cause I don’t want to clean my laptop/phone.

Also, those kinds of orgasms have to happen to some people for it to even happen in porn, written, drawn, or filmed, right? I hear all the time about lesbians who hooked up with someone that was so good with a strap they couldn’t stand up and their legs were constantly shaking. I’ve read fan fiction where the trans girl is getting pegged and everything from their thighs touching to the strap on in their ass is “too much” and a bite to the nipple is what throws them over the edge to cumming. Or, a cis woman getting fingered so well that their entire body shakes involuntarily when they cum. Like, there has to be something going on, even if it doesn’t happen often. I mean, would HRT get rid of my refractory period, letting me have more intense and multiple orgasms and shaking?

I’ve read about trans sex experiences before, so I’m familiar with what HRT does, but I can’t imagine it. Especially since masturbation for me just... isn’t that great all the time?