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Krys
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Sex toys

Unread post by Krys »

Hello! I recently purchased a clit vibrator (still on its way) and after I purchased it I had a lot of self questioning up until now. Things related about sex are a taboo in my family and this is my first time buying a vibrator. I also couldn't tell anyone even my close friends because I don't know how they'll react so no one's there to comfort me or talk to me about these things. I just tell myself that vibrator is a new thing to me and trying new things are part of growing up and having more experience, I shouldn't be embarrassed right? That I purchased something like that.
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Re: Sex toys

Unread post by Sam W »

Hi Krys,

You're absolutely right that exploring different ways of masturbating, including using sex toys, is nothing to be ashamed of and is a part of our sexual development. Would it help to talk a little more about those self-questioning thoughts or doubts are? Sometimes, if we identify what, specifically, is making us embarrassed about buying a sex toy, we can address the root cause of that embarrassment.
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
Krys
not a newbie
Posts: 8
Joined: Thu Mar 18, 2021 6:58 am
Age: 24
Awesomeness Quotient: I think i'm great at making poems
Primary language: English
Pronouns: she/her
Sexual identity: Cisgender
Location: Philippines

Re: Sex toys

Unread post by Krys »

After I purchased it, my mind always go 'did I do the right thing? 'why did I purchased it?' 'do I really need it?' 'should I just cancel the order?' 'what if my mom found out about the toy?' 'where do I hide it?' things and stuffs like that.
Sam W
previous staff/volunteer
Posts: 10320
Joined: Mon Jul 28, 2014 9:06 am
Age: 33
Awesomeness Quotient: I raise carnivorous plants
Primary language: english
Pronouns: she/her
Sexual identity: queer
Location: Coast

Re: Sex toys

Unread post by Sam W »

Got it. So, with those privacy concerns, are there places in your room that other people never look t or use? Places like the back of a dresser drawer, under a bed, or another spot no one but you is going to be in can all be good options for storing sex toys.

For those other doubts, when you first saw the toy and decided to order it, were you excited or really interested in trying it?
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
Krys
not a newbie
Posts: 8
Joined: Thu Mar 18, 2021 6:58 am
Age: 24
Awesomeness Quotient: I think i'm great at making poems
Primary language: English
Pronouns: she/her
Sexual identity: Cisgender
Location: Philippines

Re: Sex toys

Unread post by Krys »

I know some hiding spots but sometimes my mom goes through my stuffs if she's looking for something and i'm afraid she'll find out that way.

When I saw the toy, i'm interested in trying it because it has a really strong vibration and my hand won't go numb anymore when doing 'it'.
Sam W
previous staff/volunteer
Posts: 10320
Joined: Mon Jul 28, 2014 9:06 am
Age: 33
Awesomeness Quotient: I raise carnivorous plants
Primary language: english
Pronouns: she/her
Sexual identity: queer
Location: Coast

Re: Sex toys

Unread post by Sam W »

Do you have something like an underwear drawer? That's somewhere that, in theory, she'd have absolutely no reason to dig through.

And that sounds like a great reason to by a sex toy! There's nothing wrong with being curious about new way of masturbating.
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
Krys
not a newbie
Posts: 8
Joined: Thu Mar 18, 2021 6:58 am
Age: 24
Awesomeness Quotient: I think i'm great at making poems
Primary language: English
Pronouns: she/her
Sexual identity: Cisgender
Location: Philippines

Re: Sex toys

Unread post by Krys »

I'll try the hiding places you mentioned. Thank you for talking to me through this stuff. I don't have anyone to talk to about this and you guys are a really big help in keeping my mind straight! <3
Sam W
previous staff/volunteer
Posts: 10320
Joined: Mon Jul 28, 2014 9:06 am
Age: 33
Awesomeness Quotient: I raise carnivorous plants
Primary language: english
Pronouns: she/her
Sexual identity: queer
Location: Coast

Re: Sex toys

Unread post by Sam W »

You're very welcome, and I'm glad we could help!
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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