Finding body parts down there/masturbation
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Finding body parts down there/masturbation
Hi! I am 15 and decided to try masturbating for the first time. I read sex books a lot and often get aroused and finally decided to try something after reading one night. It failed. First of all I don't know what a clitoris looks like and where it is. Every time I search it up I cannot find anything useful to help me see it. I think the reason I am so confused (I think) is that after research and looking at it in a mirror I have large inner lips. I don't know if this affects anything but maybe thats why I can't see it? Second of all when I tried it, I started to rub my area and then finger myself. All I felt was a little out of breath but overall felt nothing. I then tried putting another finger but it was super tight. What ways can I masturbate to help me try things out, and will it hurt when I have sex if I am already so tight down there. I am NOT planning on that any time soon, I am just curious.
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Re: Finding body parts down there/masturbation
Hi lollypop,
So, with your clitoris, it's actually going to be above where your labia are, so them being on the bigger side is unlikely to conceal it from you. If you haven't already seen it, the first illustration in this article makes it really clear where everything is: Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More.
The clitoris can also be harder to find for those with a smaller clitoris, or when someone isn't sexually excited yet. If you're just feeling or looking around at a time when you aren't aroused, it can be harder to find. When a person is aroused, the clitoral hood will retract a bit more, and the clitoral glans (both external portions) will increase a little in size and a lot in sensitivity. If you just feel your way around with your fingers during times like that -- right between the top of the outer labia, and the hood is what connects the inner labia -- it's usually tough to miss because a pretty notable zing is to be felt. Does any of that help?
When it comes to masturbation, there are lots of things you can try. This article offers a really good overview: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation. Too, having difficulty inserting a finger is usually a sign that you're not quite aroused enough for that yet, and/or that you need to add in some more lube.
So, with your clitoris, it's actually going to be above where your labia are, so them being on the bigger side is unlikely to conceal it from you. If you haven't already seen it, the first illustration in this article makes it really clear where everything is: Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More.
The clitoris can also be harder to find for those with a smaller clitoris, or when someone isn't sexually excited yet. If you're just feeling or looking around at a time when you aren't aroused, it can be harder to find. When a person is aroused, the clitoral hood will retract a bit more, and the clitoral glans (both external portions) will increase a little in size and a lot in sensitivity. If you just feel your way around with your fingers during times like that -- right between the top of the outer labia, and the hood is what connects the inner labia -- it's usually tough to miss because a pretty notable zing is to be felt. Does any of that help?
When it comes to masturbation, there are lots of things you can try. This article offers a really good overview: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation. Too, having difficulty inserting a finger is usually a sign that you're not quite aroused enough for that yet, and/or that you need to add in some more lube.
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Re: Finding body parts down there/masturbation
You're welcome!
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