i can’t oragasm when my boyfriend fingers me

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i can’t oragasm when my boyfriend fingers me

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hey, i’m 14 and so it my boyfriend. we’ve been getting closer with sexual stuff and have had sex but he was the only one who reached orgasm, even if he fingers me or gives me oral i don’t orgasm and he feels like his fault. is there any explanation for this?
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Re: i can’t oragasm when my boyfriend fingers me

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Hi elliotlovezyou,

The most likely explanation is that you two haven't yet found the ways of touching you that are likely to lead to orgasm. Often, that can be addressed through a combination of communication and bringing what you know about your body into the conversation. For instance, do you usually orgasm when you masturbate? And when the two of you are sexual together, are you getting a lot of pleasure out of the things he's doing?
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