hi there,
i have noticed that i am able to get horny but not fully aroused. and i don't mean just for lubrication but for my mind to relax, i can use lube for lubrication that isnt the issue.
are there certain things i could try to see what would work? i don't really like using porn because i find i had bad experiences with porn in the past and would prefer to not use it. ive tried erotic literature and audio but im not really a fan of those. any other suggestions?
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Re: how to get myself aroused on my own
Hi! Have you tried closing your eyes and thinking of or visualizing a fantasy or memory? It sounds so simple, but this is actually what works for many people who don't enjoy consuming sexual media. Perhaps the stimulation from watching/reading/listening isn't working for you, so it might be worth a shot to go back to basics, remove those things and just let your imagination run wild or think of a memory/person etc. Aside from that, I could help you find material that might work better for you if you want to share a bit about what you know DOESN'T work?
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