Premature ejaculation?

[Diktator]

Hello. I hope you are fine. I came for this reason: I have been involved in masturbation for the past few years and I was addicted to porn until a few weeks ago. I am afraid to have sex because I feel that I have a problem with premature ejaculation and I am afraid of pooping during sex. If I satisfy myself with high hand pressure, the work is done in less than thirty seconds, and if I do it with minimum pressure, it takes two minutes. This issue has troubled my mind a lot and for this reason I am afraid to enter into a relationship
I'm 17

[Carly]

Hey Diktator -- when you say "premature," can you tell me what or who you are comparing yourself too? What makes you feel that it is premature? Bodies are all very different, and some people simply do just don't need a lot of time to be ready to orgasm and ejaculate. Something I also want to flag is that it sounds like you are pretty in tune to what your body likes. It might feel very quick because you know exactly what you need to do to orgasm and you are only concentrating on yourself. We have a great advice column on this topic that I think you should read.

Also, do you want to talk more about worrying about pooping during sex? What makes you think you might?

[Diktator]

Hey Diktator -- when you say "premature," can you tell me what or who you are comparing yourself too? What makes you feel that it is premature? Bodies are all very different, and some people simply do just don't need a lot of time to be ready to orgasm and ejaculate. Something I also want to flag is that it sounds like you are pretty in tune to what your body likes. It might feel very quick because you know exactly what you need to do to orgasm and you are only concentrating on yourself. We have a great advice column on this topic that I think you should read.

Also, do you want to talk more about worrying about pooping during sex? What makes you think you might?

with my subsequent ejaculations. And I compare the things I know! And no matter how I look at the issue, I see that fifteen seconds after the start of masturbation is a short time to reach ejaculation, and even if I reduce the pressure, it will eventually increase to two minutes and fifteen seconds. Is it normal? I am very worried about the issue

[Carly]

Hey again -- I stand by a lot of what I said previously. Masturbation is a different experience than being with a partner, so even if you feel that you are too quick it doesn't mean automatically that you will be quick with a partner. It's very normal for there to be difference between the two experiences, and it's very normal for there to be a variance between people in how long it takes them to ejaculate. Therefore, "normal" is a bit hard to determine. Does that make sense?

Did you read the resource I linked to? Could you relate to anything talked about?