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Hiv risks

Unread post by Luciefer »

Hi, i need some answers to Hiv risks
I've made sex with a random girl i meet her at a bar
I use a condom but while we finished and i pulled out, i found that the condom was stuck in her vagina
At the morning i received a message from one friend she said that the girl i slept with was a hiv positive person, i scared a lot and i get tested immediately and the result was negative, but they tell me that i need to get tested again after two weeks,
My question is am i highly risky to get Hiv ?
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Re: Hiv risks

Unread post by Sam W »

Hi Luciefer,

So, if the condom came all the way off in vaginal canal without either of you noticing until you pulled out, then that does introduce the chance of fluid exchange. However, I think the important thing here is that SHE didn't tell you she was HIV positive; some other person did. So your next step needs to be asking her if she knows her STI status, and then making your decision from there. Does that make sense?
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Re: Hiv risks

Unread post by Luciefer »

I'm sure that during the act, the condom doesn't removed, just when i spilled off in the end
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Re: Hiv risks

Unread post by Latha »

Hi Luciefer,

I think that still leaves a chance for fluid exchange. How do you feel about Sam's suggestion? Do you think you can contact this girl to ask her about her HIV status?
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Re: Hiv risks

Unread post by Luciefer »

I'll try to contact her, also I'll share the test result next week
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Re: Hiv risks

Unread post by Sam W »

Those both sound like good next steps. Too, a good way to avoid situations like this in the future is to have these conversations with a potential partner before anything sexual happens. If you need any information on how to do that, that's something we can help with.
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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