how do i get my mom to get me a binder
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how do i get my mom to get me a binder
Good day, all.
My name's Hikaru on the forums, and I'm a transmasc guy, age 16.
I have a bit of a silly problem. You see, I'm perfectly in the closet due to geographical and social factors, and I've made peace with that fact.
But, unfortunately, I come off as VERY VERY girly. Like, not to blow my own trumpet, but I'm pretty- but only in the way a girl is pretty. And I have big tits too so go figure.
Both me and my mom are looking for ways to reduce my chest size because I'm already a 38C.
I keep on wanting to bring up a binder, but I dunno how to do it without coming out as trans; which I know she won't like, because my mother is of the opinion that she'll never see a gay person ever. [she said. to THE gay.]
Any ideas/alternatives?
My name's Hikaru on the forums, and I'm a transmasc guy, age 16.
I have a bit of a silly problem. You see, I'm perfectly in the closet due to geographical and social factors, and I've made peace with that fact.
But, unfortunately, I come off as VERY VERY girly. Like, not to blow my own trumpet, but I'm pretty- but only in the way a girl is pretty. And I have big tits too so go figure.
Both me and my mom are looking for ways to reduce my chest size because I'm already a 38C.
I keep on wanting to bring up a binder, but I dunno how to do it without coming out as trans; which I know she won't like, because my mother is of the opinion that she'll never see a gay person ever. [she said. to THE gay.]
Any ideas/alternatives?
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Re: how do i get my mom to get me a binder
Hey Hikaru!
Does your mom already associated binders with trans people? Even if she does, you can still bring up the binder.
At the end of the day, its just a piece of clothing meant for people with breasts, regardless of their gender identity.
If y'all are already looking for ways to reduce your breast size, I think this can be presented as a simple solution.
What do you think?
Does your mom already associated binders with trans people? Even if she does, you can still bring up the binder.
At the end of the day, its just a piece of clothing meant for people with breasts, regardless of their gender identity.
If y'all are already looking for ways to reduce your breast size, I think this can be presented as a simple solution.
What do you think?
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Re: how do i get my mom to get me a binder
Hi Aarija! The issue is that she does, and even if I wanted to buy one for myself, I don't live in a trans-friendly environment- hence the forum post. I need convincing arguments that won't make my mom go "But isn't that for [insert slur here]??"
hope you understand my plight
hope you understand my plight
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Re: how do i get my mom to get me a binder
Hi Hikaru!
That's definitely a predicament!
Are you set on having a specific binder, or are you open to other suggestions? A lot of people looking for binding gear swear by the Enell brand; particularly the Enell Sport High Impact Bra. I use it when I don't feel like using an 'official' binder or when I'm exercising. I have a 36DDD chest size and it works well for me + is comfortable. If it wouldn't bother you having it branded as a 'bra', I think asking your mom for this could be a good cover as it has compression without being associated with 'transness', necessarily.
There are a lot of binding recommendations online that aren't that specific brand; compression bras, sports bras, binders, binding tape... it all depends on what you're comfortable with and looking for!
That's definitely a predicament!
Are you set on having a specific binder, or are you open to other suggestions? A lot of people looking for binding gear swear by the Enell brand; particularly the Enell Sport High Impact Bra. I use it when I don't feel like using an 'official' binder or when I'm exercising. I have a 36DDD chest size and it works well for me + is comfortable. If it wouldn't bother you having it branded as a 'bra', I think asking your mom for this could be a good cover as it has compression without being associated with 'transness', necessarily.
There are a lot of binding recommendations online that aren't that specific brand; compression bras, sports bras, binders, binding tape... it all depends on what you're comfortable with and looking for!
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Re: how do i get my mom to get me a binder
CaitlinEve, you are a LIFESAVER.
Definitely using your recommendation- my mom'll like it too!
Definitely using your recommendation- my mom'll like it too!
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Re: how do i get my mom to get me a binder
I'm so glad Caitlin's suggestion was helpful! Good luck with your shopping!