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Kasi
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Help?

Unread post by Kasi »

Hi! I would love to make get a response from heather, I’ve had a recent situation and I can get it out of my head, actually any help is appreciated! Thank you!
Heather
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Re: Help?

Unread post by Heather »

Hey, Kasi, I'm happy to help you out. What's the situation?
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Kasi
not a newbie
Posts: 6
Joined: Sat Nov 16, 2024 4:26 pm
Age: 17
Awesomeness Quotient: I love water sports!
Primary language: English!
Pronouns: She/her
Sexual identity: Straight
Location: California

Re: Help?

Unread post by Kasi »

Hi Heather, thank you for reaching back out to me. I just had a question regarding a sexual experience. I had previously talked to a girl off of another app and what she was saying, which just didn’t make sense to me and she was asking me for pictures of my boobs and my other genital area to prove that I wasn’t pregnant, which I don’t think is right anyways me and my boyfriend did did something and I gave him head and then we made out and then a probably three minutes later he went down on me. I’m scared that there could’ve been pre-cum in his mouth. If there was what are the chances of me being pregnant?
Heather
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Location: Chicago

Re: Help?

Unread post by Heather »

So, to determine your pregnancy risk with any given sexual activity, you'll want to look at this page: https://www.scarleteen.com/read/can-i-g ... r-pass-sti

In your case, you'll look at oral sex, since that's the activity you were doing. When we figured the risk levels for these activities we took specifics like this into account.

I'm not sure why someone you don't know on the internet would ask for photos of your breasts and genitals save that they wanted them for a sexual purpose. How someone's breasts or genitals look is not a way a person can indicate pregnancy. What app was this?
Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. - Margaret Mead
Kasi
not a newbie
Posts: 6
Joined: Sat Nov 16, 2024 4:26 pm
Age: 17
Awesomeness Quotient: I love water sports!
Primary language: English!
Pronouns: She/her
Sexual identity: Straight
Location: California

Re: Help?

Unread post by Kasi »

Perfect! It says “no risk” so I should be fine! Thank you! This was on Quora, obviously I’m scared, a lot and she asked to see and I said I wasn’t comfortable with that, and she said “remember this is for you” which gave me an weird feeling..? Anyways! “She” also said that I need to pay attention to my Breast and urine color.. and then she said pregnancy symptoms happen 2-3 days after whatever happened, and she also said she could give me a definite answer if she saw my boobs and stuff, and proceeded to ask if I’m shaved, and if I’m tight, it was all very uncomfortable. And made me worry more that I actually am pregnant😫
Heather
scarleteen founder & director
Posts: 9703
Joined: Sun Jul 27, 2014 11:43 am
Age: 54
Awesomeness Quotient: I have been a sex educator for over 25 years!
Primary language: english
Pronouns: they/them
Sexual identity: queery-queer-queer
Location: Chicago

Re: Help?

Unread post by Heather »

We really don't want to be getting reproductive health advice from random strangers. It sounds like the person there was absolutely looking to exploit you, so I am very glad that you knew not to do what they were asking. What they said to you was neither factual nor meaningful: it was just someone saying weird stuff to try and get you to send nudes.

Moving forward, it really is best to stick to safe places where you can only talk to people whose work this is, and whose identity you can look up and verify. Stay safe out there, Kasi. <3
Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. - Margaret Mead
Kasi
not a newbie
Posts: 6
Joined: Sat Nov 16, 2024 4:26 pm
Age: 17
Awesomeness Quotient: I love water sports!
Primary language: English!
Pronouns: She/her
Sexual identity: Straight
Location: California

Re: Help?

Unread post by Kasi »

You are wonderful heather, thank you soooo much! You put my mind at peace about thinking i was pregnant, thank you so much!
I will be very careful! ❤️
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