I’m 20 years old and can’t climax

[Jay133]

Hello everyone ,
I’m 20 years old and have been having sex since I was 18 and since then have only been able to finish 4 time and I can’t seem to masturbate either as it’s not enjoyable and I’m so frustrated at this point Iv tried what seems like everything toys, pillows, my hand, sexual partners but nothing works I get close like really close but nothing happens it just goes away when I get to a certain point and I know I haven’t climaxed as it’s not the same feeling
Honestly the only times Iv ever finished were with a “toy” (not really a toy but used it as one) and I haven’t been able to since that day

Not sure what to put on here really but thanks for your help if you decide to answer or whatever

[Jacob]

Aw I'm sorry, this sounds like it's been really frustrating Jay!

You say you were able to reach orgasm a few times by using a toy, so it sounds like toys might be a part of the solution... Could there be something about worked that time which you could try again?

That said there is a lot to be said for enjoying masturbation for its own sake... are you able to get any enjoyment from masturbation without orgasm?

I ask because you may be missing out on better understanding your own sexual response if you're focused only on the end goal of orgasm.

The last thing I'll mention is that there are many things that can affect our sexual response from mental health and physical health... are there any outside factors that you think could be affecting your enjoyment of masturbation and/or your ability to orgasm?

I'd also recommend giving this one by Heather a quick read: When the Big O is a No-Show