I found out my gfs friend was arrested

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MountainMix
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I found out my gfs friend was arrested

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So recently my gf and I found out that her friend got arrested for holding and distributing child pornography of infants. We were both very disturbed to find that out and my gf is now super depressed and untrusting of the world. She’s also scared because she has a couple classes with this person. We’re not really quite sure what to do as my gf suspects he may still be engaging in that material. I suggested she talk to him, but she doesn’t feel comfortable doing so. How can we move on from something like this?
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Re: I found out my gfs friend was arrested

Unread post by Asking Queries »

Hi MountainMix,

Just dropping in to say that is a pretty heavy and potentially triggering topic, and maybe not one people immediately expect in a post in the relationships area. I’m not saying that it’s not appropriate for here, because it is about a relationship — however, I think an edit that adds a trigger warning at the top might be helpful, if you can still edit the post.

- AQ
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Re: I found out my gfs friend was arrested

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Hi MountainMix!

No doubt that's a really big thing to learn of and for you to have to try and process, I'm so so sorry!

I can see AQ's point, so I'm going to move this topic thread to the "abuse" section and then we can continue this conversation there.
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Don't see why they call it lonesome.
I'm never lonesome when I go there." Connie Converse - Talkin' Like You
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