It's normal to have a "kink" at a young age?

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It's normal to have a "kink" at a young age?

Unread post by Venuss! »

(sorry if my english is bad, not my first language at all)

I'm almost 14yo, and I've been SA a lot of times during my whole life, by family, classmates, teachers and etc. That all kinda of make me got into a explicit part of internet (also cause I got a phone when I was 3yo-) and discover about masturbation, porn/hentai at a young age then the average.
Well I noticed that I have some especific tastes like omorashi, submission, overstimulation and etc.

I'm a little bit worried, like, it's normal? Should I talk about it with my therapist? Cause my family is totally out of case in these assunt
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Re: It's normal to have a "kink" at a young age?

Unread post by Sofi »

Hi Venuss,

Your English is fine!

I'm very sorry to hear you've been through sexual assault, and more than once, and especially at such a young age. I know how difficult it is to heal from that kind of trauma.

Around here, we don't really talk about sexual preferences as "normal" or even as a "kink", especially something like the ones you mentioned, which are all common. There's nothing wrong or abnormal about having a sexual preference, as long as you are being safe and consensual.

I don't think you need to talk to your therapist about these preferences, unless you want to and feel the need to. You should, though, talk to them about the sexual assault you mentioned. Is that something you're okay with bringing up to them?
And yes, family doesn't need to know our sexual preferences, as that's a boundary many people have and prefer to keep that private from family.
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