How do I ask my partner to reciprocate?

[sunflowers55]

I've been dating my boyfriend for just over four months. We are both seniors in high school. I love him so much! Generally everything in our relationship is wonderful, but for a few weeks I've been wanting to ask him if he could reciprocate more sometimes when we have sex.
We've had sex maybe 5 or 6 times, and I have mostly done the initiating, which I previously brought up and he says he's perfectly fine with. All of the times we've had sex, he hasn't really offered to reciprocate after he's orgasmed, and the one time he did reciprocate, I prompted/asked if he wanted to go down on me.

For the past few weeks since we last had sex, I've been sort of spiraling about the reasons he hasn't offered/asked to reciprocate in the moment, although he often does express how much he wants to outside of the actual sex. I know it's the insecurity talking, but I'm worried maybe he didn't really enjoy it when he did reciprocate/go down on me, or that he didn't really want to in the first place and only did so because I asked/prompted the one time.
I'm not really sure how to proceed, since the relationship is still kind of new and we haven't had many difficult conversations about sex yet - this would be the first "issue" that I've wanted to discuss. I'm also really hesitant to talk about it with him because I genuinely do love giving him oral and hand jobs, so I don't want him to think that I don't enjoy doing that for him.

Even though I know I should bring this up with him, I really don't want him to feel pressured or guilted into doing something he doesn't want to do in that moment (just because he has said he will/wants to, I don't want to pressure him). I'm just struggling with the insecurity piece the most, and feeling undesirable when it comes to him going down on me/and or fingering me. If anyone has any advice on how to talk about this with him and balance all of this, I would really really appreciate it!! xx

[Jacob]

Hi sunflowers!

I'd tell him how it makes you feel that he doesn't - but maybe also ask him how confident he feels around it, in case there are any concerns there that both of you can speak about together.

It might also be a good idea to discuss how it'd fit around what you are already enjoying sexually - really you'd like for both of you to be enjoying all parts of sex even if it's in different ways. It doesn't necessarily have to be after he has orgasmed, and maybe he doesn't need to orgasm at all every time.

You might also want to check this piece out about reciprocity: Reciprocity, Reloaded