Struggling to take bigger sized dildo

[Try-cone-today]

Hi so I'm currently in a lesbian relationship and we whers trying different sized dildos and For some reason I can't take any of them obove a inch wide and 5 inch girth at least with out it a bunch of pain and blood and yes we use a bunch a lube and make sure everything is OK do I need to be worrying about it at all

[Latha]

Hi and welcome to the boards, Try-cone-today!

I wouldn't say you need to worry about it, exactly, but you shouldn't have to deal with this pain and bleeding. The good thing is that you're in the right place - we can try to troubleshoot this together. I have some questions to start:

• How long does the bleeding last?

• Can you describe the pain a bit more? (Where exactly is it located, how does it feel, how long does it last...?)

• Do you feel relaxed and aroused by the time you start?

I'm glad to hear that you and your partner are using plenty of lube! The most common cause of what you are experiencing is friction, and lube generally helps with that.

[Latha]

P.S. We have an article on first aid for injuries during sex. It might be useful to have on hand for situations like this: F*c&!ng First Aid: A Quick Guide to Common Sex Injuries. If you scroll all the way to the end, you'll find the section on vaginal and vuval abrasions.

[Heather]

I also want to add that if something like this that's totally optional is causing pain and bleeding, by all means, don't do that thing! In other words, if this size isn't a good fit for you, you can simply use a smaller size instead. There's just no reason or point when doing something optional that's supposed to be all about feeling good to do it in a way (or with a thing) that doesn't feel good. <3