i don't feel anything when i touch myself

[tinkywinky]

hii

soo as the title says, i don't really feel anything when i touch myself lol. growing up, i always used to hump my mattress and that eventually lead to me now, humping my pillow.

over the last couple months i started getting pretty sick of just humping my pillow and wanted to be able to pleasure myself just by touching myself. so i watched a couple tutorials on how to masturbate, squirt, make urself orgasm etc and well, i did end up squirting. i had to do this in the bathroom since i didn't wanna be caught. on top of that, i also wanted to expirement with penetration and so i used a couple things lol(hairbrush, toothbrush handle, razor handle, i even thought i could ride the plunger... THAT DID NOT WORK BTW) and well i don't have any condoms so honestly that session may have been pretty unsanitary!

anyways, after that things kind of changed. well actually before that i did try sticking my hairbrush in there, and it worked but i was bleeding a bit, i don't really bleed anymore tho. i've pretty much gotten used to using my hairbrush now since i actually enjoy penetration lol. the only thing is, when i penetrate myself, i get this feeling at my clit, almost like she wants to be pleasured. and so i try to touch myself with the other hand but i just feel nothing. i've watched visual tutorials on how to touch yourself but i just do not feel the pleasure that i'm supposed to (?) it's not even uncomfortable, it's just nothing. i try to touch it with the hood over it, the clit revealed, i feel nothing.

also, my right nipple is pretty sensitive lol. only my right one idk why. like when i touch it, i feel it in my pussy lol. and it helps to do that while i'm penetrating myself, so i thought it would help with touching my clit too but no, nothing.

is there anything i can do to increase sensitivity down there? i don't wanna be sticking hairbrushes up there until i get married lol. i wanna be able to feel good without a dick yk? and yeah i can hump my pillow and shit but it's getting boring. sometimes i reveal my clit and try to masturbate with the shower head but i don't really enjoy it, i mostly use it to help me piss lol.

i know every woman is different and everyone feels pleasure in different ways, but it just seems like my clit is only ever "activated" when i'm humping shit. and sometimes i do stick my fingers in there and well if i'm really horny my palm rubbing against my pussy feels pretty good but it's nothing like "oh my god i'm about to orgasm".

and like, omg. i wanna orgasm so bad. like

[lilikoi]

Hi pinkypie22!

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[tinkywinky]

hi lilikoi!

yeah i'm okay with it now, figured i had to get over it. i'd like to think of it as exposure therapy loll

also i don't actually remember what your response was the last time, i'm really sorry. i think i was more freaked about the fact that i couldn't delete the post that i didn't really look into what you said. i hope u can forgive me.

[lilikoi]

Sweet! In that case, let me share what I wrote last time!

Based on what you shared, a couple of things come to mind. I want to emphasize that orgasming is not the be all end all of sex. That's a common story people share and it is just not true. Sex and masturbation are about doing what makes your body feel good. Sometimes that ends in orgasm, sometimes it builds and builds and then you move on till next time. That being said, it can be very frustrating when you want to orgasm and cannot for whatever reason. It's great to hear that you have been noticing what feels good for you and keeping track of that for yourself!

With that being said, arousal is different for everyone. It can take a building up of sensation and for some people that build-up can take a long time. Some of the body signs that tell vulva owners the build-up is happening include vaginal secretion in the area, the clitoris and labia swelling in size, and heart rate increasing. Sometimes what feels good can actually lead to overstimulation. This happens when your body is sort of overwhelmed by sensations which keeps the experience from further arousing you and can make you feel numb. Your clitoris is powerful and interacts with over 15,000 of nerve endings! Those nerve endings are sensitive which means they can become overstimulated.

Some ways to avoid overstimulation include making sure you are sufficiently lubricated while touching your genitals as well as getting arousal from parts of your body aside from the super sensitive parts. On the other hand, when it comes to arousal, some people describe the brain as the most important organ for pleasure. Sometimes medication, stress, or mental health struggles can keep somebody from fully engaging in their sexual experience the way that they want to. Not sure if that could be impacting your experience.

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[tinkywinky]

tysm this is so helpful!! i rly appreciate ur time

i guess i should also focus more on making sure that i'm enjoying masturbating rather than just hoping for an orgasm lol. but anyways ty i really appreciate what u guys are doing and i hope this post can also help others in my situation!

[Latha]

I’m glad Lilikoi’s answer helped — feel free to ask if you have any more questions!

[tinkywinky]

ofc ty!!