How do make masterbation feel less lonley?

[Ch3st3r]

Hi i'm a 15 year old male who enjoys to masterbate, but finds it very lonely. I'm not intrested in sex, and i don't think i will be for a while. But I do enjoy my time alone when it comes to pleasuring myself. I know that last sentence contradicts what I said before but masterbating has just become less exciting. And so I just curious on how to make masterbating exciting and less lonley

[Ch3st3r]

Honestly any advice would help, i just want to enjoy masterbating again

[amber]

Hi Ch3st3r, glad to have you here!

I wanna start by offering up some great articles we have on masturbation. Would you be willing to give them a read and see if anything sticks?

Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation is a great overview with some sections that may be helpful.
Take a Self-Love Road Trip: Let Curiosity Guide Your Masturbation is another article which focuses on exploration.

You mention specifically feeling 'lonely'. I was hoping you could try to expand on this feeling. Are you experiencing negative feelings like guilt, feeling something closer to boredom, or something complete different?

[Ch3st3r]

Well before masterbation use to be fun and exciting and then eventually it started to feel isolating. Almost as if maybe it was wrong. It also got very repetitive and borinh. And i would like to contiune to explore self pleasure, but I want that feeling again of excitement and true pleasure

[amber]

Thanks for the clarity! Were you interested in reading those articles? They both touch on feelings of stigma and shame surrounding masturbation and may be helpful. It sounds to me like those new negative feels are impacting the pleasure you are used to receiving from masturbation. How new are these feelings? Can you think of anything that happened/changed around the time this shift happened?

[mikky]

Hi Ch3st3r, I also wanted to add something:
While it seems like feelings of shame are creating a sense of isolation, and keeping you from feeling pleasure, there are also lots of ways to make masturbation less boring. Like any activity, repetition can lead to a sense of boredom. While we can’t say for sure what would feel exciting and pleasurable for you (because we’re all different!), the possibilities are legitimately endless:
put on some music, write a story exploring a desire you have, D.I.Y.
a toy, explore erogenous zones, take a break…

But, again, if you’re feeling a general sense of shame, it would be hard not to feel isolated, and that must create some yucky feelings. Amber has some great questions to consider!

[Ch3st3r]

The feelings are quite recent. The articals did help, thank you. I will consider all both of you have said, thank you so much!