pregnancy worry?

[mimicupcake4548]

hi scarleteen team! recently (december 31 i want to say) i had given my boyfriend a blowjob as to where he didnt ejaculate but im unsure about precum. after i was done i crawled on top of him and kind of sat on his shaft i think but he assured me that nothing came out pre-cum/cum wise. im on the pill and havent missed one and i take it at the same time everday since november 19. this website says direct genital on genital activity does pose a risk so in a few days time should i take a test to be safe?

[char]

Hi, welcome back! From your story, it doesn't sound like pregnancy is going to happen here, so a test isn't necessary. You might want to get tested for STIs, though--would that be something you can do?

I've also noticed that you've shared this concern a few times, and I'm glad to know that our responses have been helpful. Since you mentioned that you're going to talk it out with your boyfriend last month, how did that go?

[mimicupcake4548]

Hello! I honestly forgot to even talk about it with him however weve been more careful and had little breaks from doing anything intimate so i think thats good. However im a bit confused because since im new to the pill i have a 4 day break which are placebo pills, and im really nervous because im currently on day 2 and i still havent bled yet which im scared about as the leaflet says bleeding should happen on days 2-3. Im also confused on how there is no pregnancy risk as i thought that if his penis touched my vagina i could get pregnant as im just unsure about precum

[Anya]

Hey mimicupcake4548,

Since it seems like you are still well within the window for menstruation, and this event does not pose even a moderate risk, you do not need to worry about pregnancy. Conception only occurs when sperm from the penis is released or able to get deep into the vagina and cervical canal. Here is an article of ours that can give you some more in-depth info on the subject!

Can I Get Pregnant or Pass an STI From That?

[mimicupcake4548]

Im still confused though, I did read the article and it says that its at moderate risk (that was more about rubbing and me and my boyfriend were static like no moving at all). However as this happened december 31st would january 16 be too early to test or is it completely fine?

[Anya]

Hi mimicupcake4548,

The "moderate risk" identified in this article is regarding rubbing genitals together. Since you describe the event as only sitting on your partner's penis, unless you felt the tip of his penis rub against or go into your vagina, it does not pose enough of a risk for you to be concerned. If you are still feeling anxious about this, taking a test won't hurt, but in our opinion, this is unnecessary.

[mimicupcake4548]

Ohhh!! Thank you so much that makes way more sense now as ive spoken to him about my worries and he said hes 99.9% sure that the tip didnt touch my hole lol. I might get 3 tests just incase i experience a scare in the future and it saves my friend from having to come to my rescue every time. Since this happened on december 31 is testing on january 15 okah as it would be 15 days since it happened as im not sure if thats too early or not?

[amber]

Hi mimicupcake4548!

That time-frame is very typical for pregnancy test use actually. I think it is great that your are considering holding onto backups for the future - maybe this would be able to ease some worry as you can see that you are prepared. I do wonder if seeking reassurance (here or with frequent testing) could actually be causing more stress than relief?

Being prepared and aware of pregnancy and STI risk is an important part of being a person who has sex with those risks. Part of that education is knowing that contraception and barriers work to mitigate those risks. Could I ask why is it you feel worried about your birth control working even with correct use? I am also wondering if condoms or other barrier methods are something you and your partner use?

Focusing on what we know works could be empowering for your sexuality by lowering the stress and fears you are seeming to face.

[mimicupcake4548]

Okay great im glad to know that its a good time to test because with my last scared i had freaked myself out for an entire month before i decided to give in a take a test and just realised that the worry just wasnt worth it all along. I think I feel so worried about my birth control not working is because I havent been on it for long and ive just overly stressed myself out from reading tiktok comments where people say they got pregnant with perfect use which stresses me out even more! Im also not on my withdrawal bleed yet and im on day 2 out of 4 which is kind of scary too as apparently if your pregnant on the pill you wont get one. Im not sure if we will buy condoms as we dont plan on having PIV anytime soon nor doing this small thing again due to the fact that its stressed me out so much even tho hes said there was no cum and that his tip was definitely not near my hole. But I think that im mainly worried because I know people get pregnant on birth control even with perfect use

[Tara]

Hi, there:

I agree that is okay for you to go ahead and test now to relieve your worries. With perfect use of the pill you have a 96-99% coverage rate. Do you need to talk about if you used the pill perfectly or not?

[mimicupcake4548]

Hi tara! I feel as if its too early to test now as its only 11 days since this happened so id rather wait for the 14+ day mark which will be on wednesdah however i plan on testing thursday. I take the pill every single day at 7AM and have never missed one however during the christmas break i took one an hour early but im pretty sure that has no effect on it, but other than that 7AM everyday and no missed pills so is that considered perfect

[Tara]

I apologize, I want to clarify that yes the date you have set and calculated from your risk is a good time to test to relieve your fears! I agree with the staff you have talked to that you didn't have a moderate risk of pregnancy. And it sounds like you have taken your pill with a perfect use rate, so you will be covered at the highest rate for the birth control pill. : )