weirdest I love you ever, what do I do help internet

[logipocalypse]

On the internet bc I can’t really ask my friends for help. I’ve been crushing on this guy for a while, we recently started talking, and recently spent a night together. HOWEVER where it gets weird is we were doing *things*( you catch my drift this is Scarleteen) and he says “goddamnit, I’m serious, I love you” which I mean, in the moment, really, whatever, you get carried away. BUT HE PUSHED THE ISSUE AND SAID IT AGAIN AFTER WE FINISHED. So I’ve been avoiding him, what can I do? There’s also a 3 year age gap (I’m younger) and we’re both neurodivergent. He’s also come on pretty strong and I’m overall not enjoying it.
What’s the best thing to do here? Do I confront him and ask him what was going through his mind? Do I just let it go and avoid him forever?

[Heather]

Hi there, and welcome to the boards.

You know, I don't think this is so weird: people tell other people they love them in all kinds of contexts, very much including in sexual contexts.

But it sounds like you aren't interested in a love relationship/connection with this person. If that's the case, then I think the kindest way to handle this is to ask to talk with him, and let him know that you're sorry, but you don't share his feelings and you aren't interested in a love relationship. I don't see anything to confront him about, because he didn't do anything wrong here by having and expressing his feelings, even though it made you feel uncomfortable. I certainly think asking him what he was thinking would be insensitive, especially since it sounds like he was simply feeling, not thinking, and no one can help the feelings they have, you know?

It may also be that in that conversation, you two agree to part ways, since it just generally sounds like you're just not vibing with the way he feels. You can just thank someone like this for the connection and time you had and wish them well in their life.