Attracted to sexually ish related body parts but not the actually sexual parts

[mourn_me]

Im but a wee lad and have no idea what this is called, idk if its some kind of fetish or what but I want to know.

I consider myself straight as I’m mostly attracted to females, I’ve never really been attracted to a man but idk it could maybe happen.

I’ve had a girlfriend and we have had sex multiple times and I enjoyed it a lot.

But the thing is, that I’m more attracted and get more aroused by the parts of the body around the main sexual parts. Hear me out, I get aroused from seeing side boobs, bellies, thighs, butts, tongues, backs and stuff but I don’t really care for stuff like vaginas and nipples.

And I’m attracted (sometimes) by stuff like male abs and stuff but not the penis. I’m not sure if this is normal but I’ve not heard anyone feel the same way. It’s always that people are attracted to the very sexual parts or the not at all sexual parts or both. But not the inbetween. Because I also sometimes get put off or turned off by nipples and vaginas or penises. And it’s not that I don’t like sex, because I do. But I don’t like my own or anyone else’s sexual organs. And I don’t know why, it feels very strange.

Pls helpT—T

[maille]

Hi, mourn_me and welcome to the boards!

It sounds like you are finding out that there is a broad diversity in people's likes and dislikes about sex! Many people find vaginas and penises, particularly out of a sexual context, to be neutral or even off putting. This is because so much of our enjoyment around sex starts in our brains. So long as you are having sex that both you and your partners enjoy, liking more secondary sexual body parts is totally unproblematic!

How do you feel after reading this?

[darkingbog]

hi! i wanted to start by saying that feeling like a wee lad is all good here and you're in the right place. i'm a wee gal, and if you don't mind i'd like to reply and relate. i have some similar thoughts/feelings surrounding sex, i find that sometimes the "sex organ" body parts can feel scary or intimidating to look at or think about, or that i'm not as interested in them as other people, and i think it could have something to do with how media portrays genital body parts, or, like maille said, could just represent the diversity in how we experience attraction and sexual experiences. either way, i want u to know ur not alone. you're not the first one to feel like your preferences are "in-between" commonly talked-about preferences, i find myself here often, and lately i've been thinking about how the expectations we set for ourself can dictate what we perceive our desires should be, even without noticing, and make it harder to enjoy the fun parts of sex. sounds to me like you enjoy spending time with your girlfriend and like you have had some positive sex experiences!