arousal

[Heather]

That's one kind of sex: intercourse isn't the only way people can be sexual, not by a long shot!

As you experienced, there are many ways to explore our sexualities and sexual pleasure together, and thus, many kinds of sex. Manual sex -- the clinical term for things like fingering and handjobs -- is one of many. For more on that, you might want to read: What's Sex?

And yeah, with these kinds of sex, it's important we all check our nails and keep them clean and groomed for partner's comfrt and use lubricant.

[naira]

hi,
i wanted to know how to masturbate

[Heather]

Hey again, Naira.

We've given you information and links on this earlier in the thread. No one can ultimately tell another person how to masturbate because learning to masturbate in ways that feel good to you come down to exploring your own body yourself over time. All of us are so different, so what feels good to one person isn't the same as what might feel good to the next (heck, even what feels good to one person on one day might not be what feels good later in that week).

What we can do it give you information to give you some general help in that process of self-exploration, some of which we have shared with you before:
• Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation
• Take a Self-Love Road Trip: Let Curiosity Guide Your Masturbation
• How Do You Masturbate?

[naira]

hi,
I read all those articles i understood them but still when i try doing it i don't actually feel anything nothing works like even imagining or reading smthg before also did not help much.tried stimulating felt smthg but it is not gng past that feel and inserting fingers i didn't feel anything

[Latha]

Hi there, Naira

Arousal isn't really a feeling that we can force when it isn't happening. I wonder if it would help to take a step back from focusing on sexual pleasure if masturbation isn't doing anything for you no matter what you try. Instead, it might help to focus on physical pleasure outside of sex. We have another resource that gets into this. Would you try that and let us know what you think?: I Feel Good: Pleasure and Fulfillment