Girl thinks she's pregnant, what am I supposed to do?

[Heather]

You know, it is okay for us to give a therapist constructive crticism or to tell them that we think something they are doing -- or sometimes even everything they are doing! -- isn't working for us. That's feedback good therapists will want, because it helps them figure out what *will* work for you. I'm sorry it doesn't sound like it's done a lot for you so far, but I hope that changes for you soon.

I hope you go to that birthday party. You know, I have some sense of what you're feeling like with friends and such treating you oddly. When I was about your same age, and already wasn't someone who fit in in the school I was in thanks to being punk and queer, I lost someone close to me very violently, a lot of people found out about it, and I felt like I was treated like an alien, too. It's very isolating, and I'm sorry. I can't speak for you or if you even feel up to this, but for me, finding some new friends who were people who were able to handle what I was dealing with a bit more went a long way.

The way her Dad is talking to you sounds pretty gross, but I'm also not surprised given what I know about him already from you. Extra machismo helps no one, and you and his daughter made a choice together: this wasn't just on you. He may or may not ever change how he feels about you, but I think that just being yourself, doing the best you can with this situation and standing up for yourself when you need to is the way to go generally, but also the most likely way to earn maybe at least some respect from him over time. But you don't have to engage with him like this, and you get to decide what kind of relationship you want with him, if any, and when and if you are in contact with him.