Bdsm at 14

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Luckyone
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Bdsm at 14

Unread post by Luckyone »

Is there anyway i can explore bdsm at 14 or just have a dominant who will help me and give me structure whos my age but with no strings attached i juet want smb to give me structure and discipline even if its limited and not romantic
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KierC
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Re: Bdsm at 14

Unread post by KierC »

Hi lucky one, and welcome to the boards :) I’m glad you’re here!

Can I ask, are you looking for someone to give you discipline in a sexual way, or is this less sexual and more general wanting discipline? Too, can you tell me about if you’ve explored this aspect of sexuality before?

BDSM situations are pretty complicated and have lots of boundaries and communication before, during, and after. It’s not typically something you dive into all at once, but if you do meet someone your age who is also interested in it we can certainly talk through how to safely start exploring those themes in the relationship. How does that sound to you as a start?
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Luckyone
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Re: Bdsm at 14

Unread post by Luckyone »

If i did anything now id want it to be plainly for discipline because im so young if i do it once im older and an adult it will include sexual parts aswell ive never done anything irl or even talked to a real person about it i have watched things and read as much as possible and looked into it for hours at a time but thats all
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Andy
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Re: Bdsm at 14

Unread post by Andy »

Hi, Luckyone!

Congrats on sharing it with real people here for the first time then:)

So there isn’t anyone specific you would like to start exploring this together with right now, do I get that right? While you are waiting for someone like that to appear in your life, you can learn more about all of this by doing some research and exploring things by yourself, like it seems you are already doing. I will leave you a few of our articles if you are looking for more resources and information, on bdsm as well as sex and sexuality in general: It’s a lot, so just take it at your own pace and let us know if more thoughts or questions come up!
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