buying pregnancy test for my friend

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devilsminion
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buying pregnancy test for my friend

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um so i was outside when my friend called me and asked me if i could buy her a pregnancy test, i said yes because what else can i say to that?? she said shes 5 days late right now and that shes coming to school tomorrow so i guess were gonna do it there?
im a bit scared to actually go and get a pregnancy test and im even more scared of what will happen if its positive
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Re: buying pregnancy test for my friend

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Hey there.

Can you say more about why you feel scared to buy your friend this test? And why you feel scared about possible results that are about your friend, and not about you?
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Re: buying pregnancy test for my friend

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well were really close so i kinda feel a responsibility to be with her and help her? also me and another one of our friends were together when she called so we got it for her and are planning to see what happens then .
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Re: buying pregnancy test for my friend

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I'm glad that getting it for her didn't turn out to be anything you needed to be scared of. Sounds like you're a good friend. <3

I understand feeling afraid for a friend who might be pregnant if they don't want to be. Has she talked with you about how she feels about that?
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Re: buying pregnancy test for my friend

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she sounded so like disconnected and she was making jokes about how we can just do her abortion which i think is just her trying to cope so i cant say anything on that but she said she absolutely does not want to have it if it’s positive.
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Re: buying pregnancy test for my friend

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Yeah, gallows humour is a way a lot of people cope with stressful situations (I do it, too). Obviously, surgical abortion is not something a friend can perform, and given that both surgical and self-managed abortion are very hard to access in Turkey, I can certainly understand that your friend is under a lot of stress.
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Re: buying pregnancy test for my friend

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yeah she needs a legal guardian to approve the procedure and she probably wouldnt even be able to tell her mom so we are just praying that shes not pregnant at all
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Re: buying pregnancy test for my friend

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I hope so, too.

In the event she does get a positive result and wants to talk about her options, or get help possibly talking to her mom, please let her know we'd be happy to talk her through any of that here.
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Re: buying pregnancy test for my friend

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This site may also be of use to her: https://kurtajhakkim.org/
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