Height

[SilverFalcon92]

Height
I heard that being tall makes you get more woman even when growing up. I have been hearing that and even girls will say that too, especially in the street interview. My experience ain’t really worked for me and if you read my post "approaching women", you know that it didn’t end up well for me, and they didn’t seem to care about my height. It didn’t make them interested in me, so that’s why I believe height doesn’t matter to me.

It’s annoying that people will ask if you play basketball or even football and I say no, and they're like you could be in the NBA, like reaching the NBA is a walk in the park. People in the NBA average around my height. You have to be skillful and not just be tall. They think being tall means you have to play basketball and I disagree you shouldn’t have to do something you don’t want to do, you should do something that makes you happy.

People think being tall is all fun and games don’t get me wrong. I like a tall person, but there are some cons, like having a hard time finding shoes for me. I wear a size 15, so I can’t just go to a store and buy some shoes, I’ll need to order them online and same for clothes, it can be hard to find clothes that are my size. Going in cars can be hard too. I know this topic isn’t about sex education, but I feel like this topic needs to be talked about. And I want to know your thoughts, opinion and some advice if you want to give some advice to me.

[char]

Hi again! I think this is an interesting topic to discuss, because there's so much to say about how our appearance affects how we are perceived by others. I've definitely heard the things you mentioned about being tall--like how tall people would have the upper hand at basketball and modelling. But at the same time, it's unhelpful to put people into boxes and assume that everyone who shares the same characteristics would be skilled at and enjoy the same activity. I also hear you with facing day-to-day challenges when you're tall. It would be great if we lived in a world that accommodates everyone, and I hope that's the direction we're going towards in the future.

When it comes to dating, it's true that some folks don't see height as an attractiveness factor. Sometimes it matters--in the end, it definitely depends on the person. But most of the time, it's not the only thing people consider when looking for a partner, you know? There are other things to factor in like personality, hobbies, and sexual preferences. When the girls you approached turned you down, they've probably considered other aspects of yourself that made them realize you're not a good fit. This doesn't mean you're undesirable, just that now, or in the future, you and other people will continue to make their choices based on what they know about themselves and what they're looking for in a partner. Am I making sense?

[SilverFalcon92]

Sorry for the late response I completely forgot about this post but yes what you are saying make sense I’m glad you can understand what I’m coming from and not being one of the people who pressure a tall person to play basketball or volleyball. For me basketball is something I like but it’s not my passion I wanna do other things in life besides basketball. I think the reason why people believe that being tall will get you girls is because of social media but I could be wrong on this I heard women saying that they want a tall man and this and that but what they say doesn’t really matter it’s all about their actions and what they do.

[Latha]

Hi there, SilverFalcon! I'm glad Charis's was able to make you feel understood!

You are not wrong--social media does play a role in developing cultural ideas about attractiveness, though there are a lot of other factors too.

Since we are on the subject of the way people judge and talk about desirability, I wonder if you've read this piece of ours: Hey Hot Stuff: On Attraction, Desirability, and "Types"