help with online preds(?idk)

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help with online preds(?idk)

Unread post by hardcorefrerard »

hello!! so, i am a survivor of csa. i have frequent flashbacks and triggers that send me into spirals, leading me to ultimately...try to "sell my body" online to [adults]. happens every few months, just about. its bad, i know, im working on it lmao- anyways that whole situation a tad unrelated.
but i was wondering. i have the face and full names of a few of them (i say "a few" because there are multiple, i mean in the hundreds range). what could i do with this information? could i report it to a tipline? i dont know where they live, but i have their faces, discord usernames, and full names.

thanks. sorry.
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Re: help with online preds(?idk)

Unread post by Heather »

Hi there. I'm so sorry about what you've had to survive, and that it's been so hard to survive it. It doesn't sound like you have active help with any of this: do you? Would you like help finding some? A good therapist who specializes in helping sexual abuse survivors could likely do a lot to help you do things like learning how to ground yourself when you're activated or spinning out, as well as helping you to heal so that you seek out destructive or dangerous behaviours less often or not at all.

In the event that you have had someone try to commit a crime with you online or offline -- in this case, that'd be things like attempted sexual assault, someone trying to get you to give them sexual or nude photos of you or someone else or sharing that kind of material with you, or trying to get you to engage in other sexual activity with them online or off -- there is an FBI tipline you can use here: https://tips.fbi.gov/home

However, it sounds like you yourself may have been trying to engage in soliciting, and it's not lawful for someone, including a minor, to do that, either, so in the event you have been yourself doing anything unlawful (and if so, please don't disclose it on the boards here, we are clear in our guidelines users should not do that for their own safety), understand that that may be something that comes to light should anything come of the tips you'd be leaving, and that could create legal issues for you.

Personally, it sounds to me like a better and much more helpful-to-you use of your time and energy -- especially if no one you'd report has actually done anything criminal, but instead, just seemed open to it, which is different -- would be to focus on your own healing and on better caring for yourself. Again, if that's something we can help you with, we're happy to do that.
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