a question on periods

[hungrypenguin_]

Hi everyone!

I really want to get this off my head because it's been bugging me for weeks and has truly drove me nuts.

I had my period on July 28th. Did i have sex before that? No. Did i have sex after my period? Also no. I'm techincally out of the woods.

I did have sex on may 29th during the third day of my period, but i got my period four weeks after that. I know people are gonna say, "take a pregnancy test!", but due to my circumstances ( I am still living with my very strict and religious family whom I depend on financially)

Today is the 28th of August my period still hasn't come yet, if i check my previous cycle from months back, it moves atleas a day or two, so i should be fine, right?

My mind keeps saying that I should check my stomach to see if it has grown bigger (which it has not) and what if i had a cryptic pregnancy and whatnot.

Did anyone went through the same situation as i did? Even if you didn't please do help me


Thank you so much!

[char]

Hi hungrypenguin_! Just to make things clear, this specific forum* is only for direct communication between you and the staff/volunteers. If you're looking for responses from other users, we can help you move this topic to another forum.

To put it simply: yes, you're completely good to go here. You're not becoming pregnant. You've had two periods since the last time you had intercourse. Do you think there are outside factors, such as living in your strict parents' house or perhaps something else, that make you constantly worry that you might be pregnant? We can also help you discuss strategies for obtaining pregnancy tests and contraception in Jakarta that is discreet and safe for you, especially if you plan on having partnered sex in the future. Considering it's a major city (and one of the more developed ones at that), you might be at an advantage. Would you like to do that? (For transparency, I'm also Indonesian, and I might be able to redirect you to local resources.)

For now, I'll leave you with this article. We can discuss the possibilities mentioned in it, if you'd like: You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You Think You Are?

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[hungrypenguin_]

Ah, thank you so much for the answer!! I would love to discuss the strategies, this would extremly help me and my friend

[char]

No problem! First of all, I wonder if you've heard of Perkumpulan Samsara? They should be able to inform you where you can safely access contraception and pregnancy tests, completing the information you got on this website with context that is more localized. Do note that they're only available on weekdays from 9-5, though. If you haven't reached out to them, it can be a good idea to do so. A lot of Indonesian queer folks recommend Angsamerah Clinic for birth control and non-judgmental sexual health consultation, though it's worth noting that their products and services may be on a higher price range.

Pregnancy tests, condoms, and lube, as you may have seen whenever you go out, are readily accessible in the largest minimarket franchises (think Indomaret and Alfamart) and pharmacies/drugstores. However, if going out to the nearest minimarkets in your house/university feels daunting, you could consider planning your purchase way ahead of the sexual activity and doing so in stores that are far from where you usually hang out. Grabbing a pregnancy test from a pharmacy in a large mall in the middle of the city that you only visit once or twice a year would be less intimidating than doing the same in a minimarket that is only a few meters away from where you live. Good drugstore attendants, especially people who work in those drugstores you see in malls, wouldn't judge your purchase. Online purchase is also possible--you can order those three items I mentioned in the beginning of this paragraph in mainstream e-commerce platforms and medical apps, and they can make your packaging discreet by request. But I understand there's a chance that your package might be discovered by someone else at home.

Consequently, this may make sex (regardless of the activity and who you're having sex with) a bit more complicated to do since there's a lot you have to prepare. On the other hand, your current circumstances could also tell you that it might be a good idea to change the way you approach partnered sex at the moment. In your first post, you've mentioned that you'll hold off from having partnered sex in the near future, which is a good step. It doesn't have to be permanent, but in the meantime, making note of these safer methods could definitely help you make decisions in the future if you decided to change your mind.

Aside from the article I shared with you above (have you read it?), you might find these ones helpful:
- Birth Control Bingo
- Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide
- Who's Afraid of Sperm Cells?
- Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?
- Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To